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My husband is a BUM!! (Vent)

I have been living in my own version of H3LL. I have been working my butt off 6x a week to make ends meet for my family. My husband does NOTHING and contributes nothing to my life or our child’s and I am done.

Backstory: We have a 4 YO daughter. My husband does not work. He suffers from depressive bipolar disorder. He had it since he was a teenager, so yes I knew what I was getting myself into. He was on medication for years and had it under control. I met him in our late 20s, he had a job, a plan and was very ambitious at the time. The months following our engagement, he had an episode and we found out we were pregnant. We kind of had a shotgun wedding, because my family pressured me into marriage due to them being religious 😑😑😑😑. I regret it. I know that I wanted to have my baby for sure but that episode was almost a deal breaker. He lost his job, got a new one, lost it again during Covid and hasn’t had a consistent income since then.

He isn’t consistent on his meds or treatment. Doctors are literally washing their hands with him and discharging him. They want nothing to do with him. His mother says she’s done too (which is sad). She’s over him and his mental illness. I feel like I’m stuck. He says he doesn’t like the meds and letting his father convince him to not take them because he’s a conspiracy theorist.🙄🙄🙄

Everyone keeps saying “you married him, he’s your responsibility” or “You picked him, that’s YOUR fault“ but I am sick and tired. I want a divorce. I hate it here. I work my butt off and have nothing to show for it. We have no savings, we’re living paycheck to paycheck and unfortunately I’m going to be late with the rent yet again this month. My landlord makes me feel like sh** each time and I’m doing the best I can! I married a bum and I hate myself for it. I hate this for my daughter.

Yes, he’s had NUMEROUS opportunities to work and got several opportunities. One opportunity that he turned down that I won’t forget was to work at an airport as a night shift guard. Good money + benefits and he TURNED IT DOWN. He also got an interview to work a construction job, he turned it down because he was afraid of getting hurt. Another good money job. 🤬🤬🤬

He doesn’t want to do anything but yet asks for sex and gets upset if I won’t sleep with him. He’s a crappy father. The resentment builds everyday and I want to hurt him. I HATE him. I’m sorry but I do.

Edit: He did receive disability benefits for a while but it wasn’t “consistent” nor did it cover enough expenses to be considered helpful.