Cheating

He is not going to change for you. Men say that because they don’t want you to leave but they also don’t want you. It’s a harsh reality but he’s an opportunist and you gave him the opportunity. Truth be told you told him he could do whatever… what did you expect to happen? Regardless of if you gave him the okay? HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU and he never will. It’s time f for you to move on. The longer you stay, the more heart broken you’ll get. And the more hurt your kids will get.

This man isn’t going to change. He wants you to tolerate his bull shit so that he can have his cake and eat it too.
He brought this woman to your HOUSE and made zero attempt to console you or make things right.
Bb get tf out of there, he’s only going to keep traumatizing and disrespecting you.

The fact that he keeps saying he will change and hasn't yet makes it seem like he's not going to. So I would get out now. You and your son and your unborn child do not need that type of man in their lives. It might hurt at first, especially for your 2-year-old, but in the end, two separate happy homes is better than one destroyed home.

@Shay yes i know i realize my mistake now. That was my attempt at saving our relationship, hoping that he got it out of his system and that was it. We've had issues with sex for the past 2 years due to him saying we werent having sex enough which we were but not everyday like he wanted to. I was always exhausted and he never helped around the house or with our son. So he decided to step out and get his needs met by someone else. And now he wants to fix things with me. And help with out kids. But like i said he shoould have been doing that sjnce the beginning. He should want to be a father now 2 years later. I just wanted advice on how long i should give him. I know hes not going to change.. i just want to give him last opportunity

I think the only way to possibly try and be together is if he stops talking to her period. And she knows about you so she should have left. They both clearly do not respect you. If he respected you and your feelings he would have blocked her no questions asked. But in all honesty I think you just need to leave because 9 times out of 10 they never change.

@Denise she has stopped talking to him. He went 2 weeks of him insisting on messaging her and her not replying which made him sad. Now hes just refusing to block her and delete her number. Recently he said he would do it if i stayed and trued to work things out one last time but he has yet to remove her.

That is absolutely disgusting I’m sorry but what a vile human being doing that to you when you are pregnant with his child!! Please please leave if you stay he will just do it again cause he thinks he can get away with it

Leave now before you absolutely can’t. This behavior will not change. If HE really loved YOU, it wouldn’t have happened period or at the very least ended ASAP.

You're letting him walk all over you. The fact that you still want to give him an opportunity to change when you already did that..shows he knows what he's doing. He knows you're not gonna leave.

I really couldn't imagine going through that. I'd be a mess. Please leave. Please love yourself and do not let him be there when you give birth. He can wait till visiting hours. I sure as hell wouldn't want him for support during that so hopefully you have someone else.

He has got to go, if he does it again which he most likely would if he had the opportunity you will feel 20000 times worse . Being with him will drive you crazy the trust is gone so you won’t be able to let him do anything without overthinking and you can’t live like that , find someone who knows your worth❤️

He will never be the man you need him to be... he will be the man he wants to be and unfortunately that includes you and the kids coming second always. I wouldn't let him anywhere near me until I'd delivered then sort how he gets his stuff from there. Disgusting behaviour from a supposed adult. I'm so sorry he is a Frog!

GIRL LEAVE WTF.

@Bri i didnt want to give him a last chance. I am not expecting him to change. The only reason im still here is because he begged for another chance. What im asking advice on ks how long should i give him if he was to even change which i know hes not going to.

No time. You should not give him any time. Why would you even give him time? What ate you waiting for? Just cause he ask doesn’t mean it should be permitted

@Shay im getting my stuff and trying to find a good job. I have a 2 year old and im due on the 11th of January. I also have a truck i would like to keep which i would need to pay for. So im trying to get my stuff ready but at the same time give him opportunity but so far havent seen any change

Don’t give any more chances or “time to change” if he wanted to change he would have. He has Very clearly made his choice. He sounds like a POS tbh. You do not deserve that bs. Show him you’re seriously done. He even went so far as to disrespect your home? F that. It’s time to move on boo. I’m so sorry this is happening:/

Facts

these men and their damn audacity

You’d think they get a monthly supply or something! I could Never be that bold & openly disrespectful

Please leave this disrespectful fool. He will continue to treat you this way, whether he cheats again or not. You deserve better

Sorry you're going through this. I would definitely leave, for your happiness and children. He will only do it again and the fact you had a break and she came to your home, disgusting. It will be very hard but in the long run you won't regret it.

openly!! You said it

LEAVE! You know him better than anyone and it’s not worth the pain or suffering. Start now so you can begin your healing journey and get on with your life! Sending you much love and strength! Whatever you do, you got this!

How long should you give him?? ….girl you’ve given him since October… you’ve given him enough time. It’s time for you to rebuild your life alone with your kids. If he loves you he’ll straighten up and prove it to you. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be.

How is a "man" who cheated on you and made it clear he doesn't give a shit about you telling you that if you really loved him, you would stay? He can fuck right off with that and you're 💯 that he's not going to change. If he loved anyone but himself, he wouldn't have cheated. Now it's time for you to love yourself and get rid of this trash human. You deserve better. Your son deserves better. Leave him so you can get that!

I’m glad the comment section has more sense than OP.

OP if you stay with him, you are letting him know that you’re gonna stay with him no matter how much he cheats. It won’t matter how many fights you share or tears you shed, you’re not leaving him due to your lack of self respect. And that little “giving him time to change” is bs. You know good and well that boy ain’t changing. You’re just going to suffer the longer you hold off the inevitable.

I’m sorry, but I have a feeling that sugar coating this wasn’t going to help you. Someone has to give it to you bluntly.

Hey listen. If you can't leave just yet then stay and use that time to reorganise yourself. Ignore him and focus on your kids and yourself and use the time to get a job and new place etc. Don't leave if you don't need to or if you don't have somewhere to go. Be nice and cordial but it doesn't mean take him back. Just means he's now a liability not an asset to you and you now should treat him as such. Keep being a good mum and partner and use him to leave if you can't right away. You're about to give birth please don't stress yourself with finances if you don't have to now. Recharge then reorganise. And also he's disgusting 🤢