BD HAS A GIRLFRIEND

Were you hoping for him to leave her and get with you?

See I’m very much upfront and idc about anyone’s feelings but mine n my child’s. If this was my situation id definelty tell her let that be a call a text. But i would refuse to allow those ppl to make your child a secret. Its a complete disregard for the child’s existence. Simple. Bc why doesn’t she know? Why isn’t it ever brought up. He’d be seeing me in court 😂 since this child doesn’t exist neither does the money their gonna get from you to help
Provide for this made up child 😘

It’s strange that the whole family is in on it. I’d tell her too, but not in the way to be an asshole. If she doesn’t know, she’ll be living her whole life with someone who has an entire family she doesn’t know about. She will feel awful if she ever finds out. You shouldn’t be a secret. I don’t think it’s wrong you kept the baby either, not at all

I don’t think there’s any other way to put it but straight up the way it is regardless of how you say it it’s gonna burn her …. But you nor your child deserves this abandonment mean while he’s living his double life happily and he’s the one that created this mess I don’t think you did anything wrong you laid down and made a baby with man you thought cared about you whole time he secretly has a girlfriend you were manipulated you did the right thing by keeping your baby that was 100% your choice

I was the girlfriend once. I would definitely want to know. Tell her calmly though keep in mind she is a victim too

She probably knows. Unfortunately, many women will know that their partner is with someone else or has a kid and not care. They will do what they can to be number one and take all of the other's attention. Sad reality. You can tell her but it just depends on what you want to take from the situation. Do you want him to leave her and go to you and the baby or do you just need him to be more attentive and focus on your baby when needed? If the latter, don't worry about her. Have a conversation with him and tell him he needs to do more.

HELL NO!

so if u were that gf u wouldnt want to know ur man has a whole secret family behind your back? Lol

I don’t want him to leave her by any means! I don’t want him at all, but yes I just want him to be more attentive and focus on the baby when needed. most times it’s like we’re non existent and idek why i keep trying with the communication bs! he literally acts in a way because of her and i know it for a fact! a YEAR AGO he was on my ass so bad and still didn’t want him then 😂

Just be straight forward let him know that if he doesn’t play his part in being a father because he doesn’t want his gf to know then the court will be involved easy as that girly let the courts deal with him!

And if anything let the female know to that he has a child and that you just want him too step up for the baby !

I would deffo make her aware, that is sure something I’d want to know!!!

Yeah, so get her number and let her know kindly he has a whole baby that you just gave birth to and the only reason you letting her know is that you don't want her just walking around unaware he stepping out. At the end of the day, we need to look out for each other. In the small chance she doesn't know, tell her. Also, talk to him. He needs to step up like Luna said or take him to court.

I was the gf once and another girl messaged me on my bday to tell me she was having his kid. He was dead to me the same day. Me n the other girl are friends now because of the trauma we went through and she didn't know about me too and his family and friends pretended not to know about either of us. People have no consciences. Its not your fault and its not her fault, hes the problem, so please be kind to her when you tell her. Your bd should accept his responsibilities towards your baby!

I don’t think a man’s gf has enough control over a man to keep him away from his kid you know what I’m saying unless she handcuffed him to a bed and was telling him he’s not leaving different story but words to a man and he just listens he’s just dumb but at the end of the day it’s the man that is keeping himself away from doing what he’s gotta do to take care of his children and it’s sad smh ! Anyone who isn’t on good terms with there Bd I always suggest the court as long as you know the man’s info to give them!

Very much tell the girlfriend at once tell her everything she will respect your honesty I’ve been the one cheated on before.