My husband cannot cope

What I learned from personal experience is if you never express your emotions and get it either validated or resolved, it will just keep on piling up. Drinking is definitely not a healthy way to cope, so him needs help to figure out what he is coping with and a better way to deal with it. We need to normalize men expressing emotions. Maybe sit with him to create a safe space to talk, look into personal therapy or fatherhood support groups.

It sounds like he could have Post Natal Depression. Missing his old life, feeling trapped, exhausted, depressed. You need to ask him to speak to someone 😞

I'm not sure what hob on the blink means but I'm in a similar situation he's a good dad and husband but he is so sensitive and I have to walk on egg shells around him

My partner is exactly the same and it all started around the same time. He has been diagnosed with post natal depression.
Since his diagnosis, he has been going to therapy which is slowly helping him understand his feelings and finding ways to deal with them.

It took him months to express his feelings to me so if you can start trying to have those hard conversations with your husband now, he can start on his path to feeling better sooner.

It’s such a tough time for both of you and dealing with a baby and a partner with depression is tough but once he has been open with you, get him to talk to his friends and family about how he feels. It’s amazing how many other people relate when people open up and it will help him feel less alone.

Make sure you also have support from someone as well cos it’s tough on you to support him so you need a solid friend or family member to talk/ rant to as well.

I hope things start to get better for the both of you soon x

PPD in men is real and happens a lot more often than people think. Mine went to therapy and it’s helped him understand a lot. A lot of his buddies are going through it now not realizing they need therapy and it’s not something they just get through.

I've just seen and written this on another post after remembering. We snapped at each other alot for afew weeks and I thought well something needs to change, and I had to remember he's a good dad, husband and he does help alot, so I tell him several times a day, you're a great dad, I love you, I appreciate everything you do, and honestly it changed how we speak to each other. It's alot nicer. Talking is also important ❤️‍🩹

Thanks everyone, I just tried to talk to him this morning, I asked what was wrong as he wasn't himself and he replied, 'nothing goes right so what's the point' and then I asked if he would speak to someone like even a friend and he said 'fuck off no....' genuinely considering going to stay at my mums or something