Looking for Day care advice

My little girl is almost 1 and we have just put her in full time day care. This was her first week. We found a really small home day care with a lovely lady who really dotes on her, but I’ve been called twice already to come get her because she’s been crying.
When I spoke with the owner of the day care about it, she said she didn’t like hearing the baby cry so hard and was worried she would hurt herself.
My little girl is normally pretty happy but when she gets herself worked up or she is upset she does really wail / scream bloody murder. When we’ve had either of our parents babysit her (her grandparents) sometimes she will be extremely fussy but they’ve always just dealt with it and don’t seem at all perturbed.
Am I totally out to lunch to expect this day care lady to be able to handle a screaming baby? Does anyone have similar experiences and can offer advice?
I have her on a few waitlists for other day cares that are more “classic” - brick and mortar day care centres, lots of kids, etc. I’m thinking once a spot opens we should move her, but this will ultimately start the process over again of getting her used to the change and might not even resolve the issue of the me having to stop working and take time off to come get her!
Signed, confused and slightly agitated first time mum 😅

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I use to work at a daycare and there was some rare cases where we would call the parents. There's alot of kids that also need care and attention and if there's a baby that is so distraught it's not good for the daycare lady, other kids or your baby. You gotta remember tho they are still humans too and if you can't handle a baby being absolutely out of their minds all day then they should be given some slack with that plus other kids. But I will say some people are not as patient as they should be and move if you think its necessary

My son cried bloody murder at the first couple in home daycares I took him too. Then I found one where he adjusted by the end of day one and was happy since. The difference was that the other places didn’t engage him, they just put him down to play and expected him to adjust to a new environment at 6 months. However, the place he adjusted to quickly, they held him until he felt safe in the new environment and by the end of the day he was a happy baby.

We first had a nanny for my son and I should have known better, first time mom, but he would cry half way through the day. It was cuz the girl was young and not soo engaging. When we moved I put him in the daycare. I should say we pay a pretty penny to be able to watch him on camera all day. So we were able to see how he was at all times. The first 2-3 days he cried ALOT. They would hug him until he calmed down and put him down but then he would cry again. By the 3rd day he stopped crying when he was there but would cry when I dropped him off. Now, a month later he gets clingy but he doesn’t cry. The people at the daycare distract him so he doesn’t see me leave. We watch him on camera the whole time and he seems to enjoy himself.

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