Partners friend group

Hey all,

I am just after some perspective here.

My partner recently added me to his friend group message group - he has known these people most of his life, I’ve met them a few times as we now live interstate from them.

I didn’t ask to join and this he misunderstood the situation in adding me, I feel like this is his thing and a thing that is between the friend group - they are welcoming and as far as I know have not said anything negative about it - but I don’t know what to do?

Should I join in on the activity or should this be left just for him?

After he added me I did say all of the above, but he said he didn’t mind and it’s already been done now - I am yet to comment or join in on the chat as I don’t know how I will be received and certainly don’t want to upset the balance or step on toes, then on the other hand I don’t want to seem like a snob as I have no issue with these people and feel we have a similar humor.

Anyone ever ever in a similar situation???
What did you do/how did it turn out?

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Just be you. If you feel like you have something to contribute to the convo then jump in, if you don’t feel comfortable chiming in then just observe if you want or mute the chat and only respond to things that involve you and your partner directly.

My husband added me to his long time friend group years ago. Childhood friends and they're all married now. I'm the youngest and the "newest" i didn't grow up in a rural environment like they did, I grew up in the city. I chime in every now and then but i don't always get their jokes or understand their conversation and we see these people a couple times a year. I think your partner is trying to open you open to another side of him and to let other people that he cares about learn you. I think this is awesome.

I'm part of my hubbys friends group. Sure, I'm not technically expertised like the rest of them are, but I'm just as versed in sarcasm, memes, and geekery 🤓😁🤪

Please enjoy the group☺️

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