my newborn HATES me !!!

i don’t think your baby hates you. i can relate to this to some extent. i think maybe baby feels your stress/uneasyness

Your baby absolutely doesn't hate you! She knows you're the best source of comfort and safety for her to express herself! I feel the same way the past couple days, my LO hasn't settled with me but will settle with my partner.. they can sense your anxiety/stress so perhaps that's it, don't forget it's absolutely fine for you to put them in a safe place and go have five minutes to cool down; I've had to do it twice today 😅
Is she bottle or breastfed? xx

You’re not doing anything wrong and I’m sure your baby doesn’t hate you 💕 You’re not alone in feeling like that though. My husband would swaddle our daughter and get her to settle down better than I could and I felt like I was doing something wrong. Your baby probably feels your frustration. I just tried to stay calm and tell her “mama’s here”

Hang in there, you got this 💪🏼

As some have said, if you are tired and stressed, you might be angry or frustrated they are not settling, they can feel this and they settle better with someone who is not in the thick of it cos they can be calm and that calmness might make them settle better. You are doing a great job. Whenever you feel you feel like this hand her over to your partner and when you feel less frustrated, you can go get her.

I use to feel this exact same way when my son was first born. I couldn’t get it out my head and just constantly thought he settled better/preferred others to me. It took me until he started really smiling and interacting with me to realise that he doesn’t hate me. The new born stage is SOO hard and you have so many mixed emotions. Trust me when I say your baby doesn’t hate you. Your LO thinks you and them are still one person. Your cuddles, touch and voice will be enough (even if they are still crying) they will know you are there for them when they are sad/need something. What always got me through was knowing that no two days will be the same.. one day you may feel rubbish and not doing a good job but then there will come another day that you will reflect and realise how amazing you are doing!!

Babies can't hate. They don't know how. Your newborn relies on you more than anyone else in the world. Some say they don't even really differentiate themselves from their mother, or understand they are a separate person at that age.

Mine fusses more with me than my husband because I usually mean food. I smell like food. She gets excited and impatient. With him, she settles immediately because he's got this very calm demeanor (he's always the one who puts her down at night which could also be why - dad means quiet time).

Mine specifically will fuss when I hold her lying across my arm (in the usual feeding position). Maybe try a different hold? Mine does better when I hold her upright, so maybe try that (as long as you support their head and they have decent control).

Trust me, your newborn does not hate you. Mine fusses more with me than anyone else, but she also gives me big smiles and her eyes go wide when she sees me. She gets excited and starts flailing. She wouldn't do that if she hated me.

Your newborn just needs your patience and unconditional love and support. She's helpless and knows nothing else except you, you're her world.

thank you! she’s combo fed at the moment but have low supply so she gets around 1 bottle of BM a day

When she's unsettled try put her on the boob even if it's not for food she may like it for comfort and a bit of bonding time.. It may also help build your supply.. that's what I've done with my LO although sometimes I can't because my nipples are so sore I just can't deal with it xx