Return to work

Hi all! I’m a first time mom to an almost 3 month old baby girl. I go back to work full time next Wednesday and I’m nervous! Luckily my mom and in-laws are watching her during the work day so I’m not worried about daycare, but I’m nervous about how I’ll feel leaving her all day. Any pointers or tips?? Thanks!

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Why you returning to early!! Depending on your job maybe keep your phone on you and nip to the toilet and maybe FaceTime whoever is having her so you can see her whilst your working x

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Awww! Its always such a dreadful feeling leaving baby and resuming work. You might be surprised how less nervous you’ll feel when you get stuck into work. Ask your mum and in laws to send pictures and updates throughout the day which will help. All the best xx

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3 months is very lucky in the US. 🥺
Picture updates help and yea maybe fast time on lunch or go visit .

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I will only get 6 weeks max of maternity pay that only pays 60% on my weekly income. Feel blessed you got 3 months with your little one!! Just try to focus on your work and mingling with coworkers, eventually you'll feel a new normal and everyone will adjust

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what!!! I’m 90% sure it’s 9 months in the UK paid then anything else gets statutory maternity which is off the government😳

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if you don’t get enhanced maternity pay from your company I think it’s 6 weeks at 90% pay, then statutory pay up to 39 weeks which is peanuts really then unpaid from 39 until 52 weeks.
With my company I had full pay for 18 weeks then statutory after that.

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I’m in the uk and am going back to work next week (5 months postpartum) with my first I went back after 2 months 🥹

Your work need to be understanding that you have a little one that you’ve left, so make it clear that you need your phone on you and on loud - that’s what I always did. I also made sure whoever was looking after her send me photos constantly, and it worked out pretty well as anytime I’d get anxious I’d have a new photo showing her playing etc

I’m not sure what else to suggest, I actually really like going to work as it gives me time to myself 😂😂 x

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I went back right around 11 weeks. It was hard. I cried all the way to work. My mom watched him.
Being distracted by work honestly helped, a lot. Also texting for updates.
I was a teacher so seeing all the little faces so happy I was back helped too.

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I’m in Australia and I return to work part time in March. We have the option of 3 months full pay or 6 months half pay then the parenting payment for 4 months. All up I took 14 months off, 4 of that was no pay at all.

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Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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