Need some advice

My boyfriend has a very high sex drive and I have a very low one especially after having our daughter. My uterus shifted after she was born and now when we have sex if it is too deep he is hitting it and causes so much pain. The doctor said there is nothing she can do to fix it at this time. He also always wants to try new things, new positions, wants oral performed, and can go on for an hour. I’m just never in the mood for that long or all these crazy ideas he has. He blames me for our relationship declining due to these sexual problems we have. I don’t know what to do to try to meet his expectations, any advice?

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Kinda in the same situation. My husband constantly is asking for sex and sexual play. I don't have the same sex drive he has. Maybe ask you doctor about addyi it's supposed to help with libido or try that olly libido. Also try asking or do research to see if there's exercises you can do to shift the uterus back. I'm trying to be sexual but at times it's hard for us women. Hope things get better.

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You decide when you want to do it too. He needs to be considerate; that your body right now isn’t the same after having your baby. He needs to be patient and slow if is causing you pain. & he shouldn’t be emotional immature, selfish and only thinking of his needs. hopefully everything gets better mamas.

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If he can’t understand that you’re uncomfortable and in pain, then thats a big red flag. He gotta understand that it’s not easy for us. We birth a baby and our body & hormones change. He should grow up a little, it doesn’t work that way. If you’re feeling like you’re forcing yourself to do these things, that’s another red flag. If I were you I’d either speak to him in a bossy tone because I myself went through something similar and realized that speaking nice doesn’t always do it. Or I would take a break. Maybe if you both take a break, he’ll realize he was wrong. Either way, you should respect yourself because it’s your body!

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Mine is the opposite I have the high sex drive and he has the low one, it definitely takes a strain on the relationship. We try to do more foreplay rather that’s a massage or using toys or simply just us kissing on one another.

Might be worth giving him head for a bit then using ur hands more just use ur mouth around the tip and sounds kinda weird to some but play w his balls that extra stimulation can actually help them reach climax maybe even use a vibrator on him 🤷‍♀️

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