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Is it possible for you to go into your room for alone time?

I mean I completely understand wanting and needing personal time or one on one, but he had kids I’m assuming before you and you chose to be with him. Are you expecting him to not be as involved with his children?

Are you for real?

Also, kids are kids. They break things. Often times, they break things that aren’t theirs. It’s par for the course of having children, biological, step or otherwise. Children are in a constant learning state. They are learning personal boundaries, what’s ok and what’s not ok, manners, motor skills, expectations, standards, etc. This can be difficult for children, especially children who live in two different households with different ways of doing things. What are your expectations regarding your relationship and family dynamic?

How is this helpful or productive to anything I said?

Leave the relationship if this isn’t for you..

I could’ve swore I asked what I should do. You should’ve gotten straight to the point…

Where does it say that? I literally just said I crave time alone and hardly get it. Not that deep.

Where does it say what? I mentioned a few things. You said more than saying you crave alone time. You sought out opinions and I gave you mine as well as asked valid questions to better get a grasp of your situation. Maybe you need to sit back and not be so on the offensive.

I’m not doing a presidential debate. I made a post and you put words in my mouth and now are attempting to tell me not be something nowhere near how I feel. I’m gonna call a spade and spade and let you know you haven’t been helpful whatsoever.

I actually have not put words in your mouth. I asked questions, to better understand where you’re coming from, which you continue to not answer. You don’t like the responses you have received. And are now in an attack state towards people who don’t align with your expectations. Your responses make it seem that you’re not actually looking for help, but rather for people to tell you what you want to hear and justify your feelings. So, good luck with all of that.

When you are with someone that already has children then it isn’t our family and his other kids are separate. The other kids are your family and you are one family. I think you are in the wrong relationship. You are also a mom and quiet weekends are no longer a thing.

i would leave that too much idc

Nah, I made a post and you asked me if I expect him to not be as involved with his kids which I never insinuated. I asked what I should do. I didn’t answer jack because you w already turned it into something it’s not, so why would I answer someone interpreting something incorrectly? Now you’re switching to the “you don’t like what you hear” approach. Why I would anyone like hearing something thats being twisted into something it’s not? You are making assumptions and I guess that helps your ego, but not the actual situation personally. You got the picture wrong and thats not helping Becky.

I said what I said and your tone deaf responses say it all. Good luck lol

Jay-Z come get your mess.

Where am I separating the family?

Awe honey, if you’re going to try and insult me, at least put forth some effort into it. We are not the same. You’re the mess as you posted. You’ve shown your lackluster self, subpar personality and inability to get over yourself to actually solve your problems. So, as I said before. Good luck. You’re going to need it. As for the rest of us, we have happy homes to get back to and I’m not going to continue down this rabbit hole of misery with you.

Then stop messaging me. Simple.

You said “I want alone time with our child”. That is separating the family. From how you speak it seems like the step kids are a nuisance that you don’t want to deal with.

I understand how you must feel BUT just keep in mind that his kids should also feel like yours… if you guys are just boyfriend & girlfriend and our eventually planning on getting married you just have to try to accept it no matter how hard it might be.. I’m sure you’d rather him be a father to his kids than be a deadbeat on child support. I felt the same way at one point until I started building a bond with his son and now I even feel lost when he leaves us…

Misinterpreted. Wanting time with your “ours family” isn’t a criminal offense, it’s natural. They have a mother, and want to see her! What I want is for them to have time with both parents.

Gold medal for useful commenter finalist. Thank you💕

😂😂 thank you but I’m just saying the truth on how it is lol. Trust me it was so hard for me I just wanted it to be me, my son and my fiancé for the longest plus that’s all I was used to( he just started seeing his son not to long ago) than I put myself in the middle and I actually got to know his son and I built an incredible bond with him… it’ll be with it in the end trust me! Feel free to message me if you need to vent or need advice on how to build that bond(no judging here) I’ve been in your position!

I’m just happy you didn’t attempt to tell me what my situation was, change the narrative, and whatever other strange shiza women do that makes my point misread and messy😂. I’ll definitely accept your offer and hand lended to me!

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I know how you feel! But reality, luv, there is no quiet time even if you it's just you and your kid alone! The fact of the matter is that those kids are also yours when he has them in his care! It's OK to feel selfish at times and only want him to yourself and your kid. I've felt like this before and there was times that I would be like ugh my SD is coming this weekend. But honestly, I was just stressing myself out. If you want alone time you will have to leave the house with your kid. I would also sit down and talk to him and let him know there should be some kind of system that works for all the kids where they get their quality time with their dad. Plan weekends with his kids and plan weekends with just you, him, and the baby. It's hard, I know! But if he's someone you want to spend your life with, then you will have to figure out a way that's going to work for everyone. The only way you will stop feeling like this is opening up and letting those kids in. Bond with them and stay open minded