Feelings towards partner

Its completely normal- you have to remember you are literally in survival mode right now. Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture!! It makes us snappy and paranoid and more easily offended, add in hormones and a screaming baby and even the most chill couple would start to wind each other up. For me its baby brain! For example I will tell my husband bring me a bottle and he does but I meant a bib and then I get annoyed he brought the wrong thing even though I made the mistake 😂🙈 its wild. Be patient and remember over the next few weeks you will hopefully be getting more sleep. We have found acknowledging it helps like saying we are more like room mates or colleagues at the min during this difficult phase but we know we will get back to us. This is probably 3 months of your whole relationship x

I literally could have written this myself it is so relatable! Our little one is now 12 weeks old and we still have our bad days but on the whole it feels like we may be getting better.. such a difficult situation to be in and I remember feeling so sad that my little ones first weeks were so marred by how bad our relationship was! Even the morning of our family photoshoot, now that's all I remember looking at the pictures, as beautiful as they are.
All I can say is I know we are starting to get better and communicating helped xx

This is literally my relationship too! Apart from my other half won’t do nappies unless for whatever reason I am not there! Then sometimes he gets home and asks where his tea is! Arghhh

Me and my partner never even argued before baby and a couple times now we've been near breaking point! As long as you're trying to communicate in healthy ways and attempting to make time for each other you will get through this tough season :)

My relationship is the same. Reached breaking point several times. It's definitely not okay but is also definitely very common. This shit is hard work! Stay strong both of you. Zoom out and look at the bigger picture. You guys love eachother. Me and my partner made up today after a very rough couple of weeks. We went for a meal together, first time in so long, and it made me realise I really love him and I don't want to lose my relationship. Its time for me to stop sweating the small stuff and appreciate how lucky I am xx

This is completely normal like many have said. 2nd time round I still hate him more than normal but I know that it passes.

Communication is king, and if you have help from family etc then use it xx

Thanks everyone for your reasurring comments! We both had a massive chat tonight and discussed how we are both feeling. Don't think it has helped that hubby has been off work for the past 6 weeks with me on paternity leave and we've not had any space but that'll be rectified on Tuesday when he's back at work x