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Yes we’ve had to do this! Can’t put your life on pause when SKs aren’t around. We have one weekend a month without him and we certainly don’t sit around doing nothing and I’m sure BM doesn’t sit around doing nothing with the other kids the three weekends a month she don’t have him! But I’ve decided not to hide things anymore, it’s your life too x

I refuse. And i refuse to feel guilty about doing things that she's unable to be included in. She has a whole other life/treats/holidays/gifts that my son doesn't have so if we get away in term time cheaply whilst we don't have her and she is at school- that's just how things are practically. It's SO impractical to think life gets put on hold and you only do things when with step children.
We will still make sure we have a holiday all as a family as she gets treat days and stuff without my son when that's the most practical option too.
In sotuations like these "fair" often doesn't come into it. As long as all children involved are included, consodered, happy and healthy WHEN in your care... that's as much as you can do. Xx

We don't hide anything, but she sure does try to make us feel guilty about having a life when ss isn't here. Think we should drop all our plans to have him on weekends that arnt ours if for whatever reason he decided not to come on the weekends that are his. He's nearly 14 so rightly so he wants to go out with friends which sometimes happens to be our weekend. He's not bothered in the slightest and totally understands, it's just her 🔫

It’s also a fact that me and my partner do not drive. Yes I know this isn’t ideal but we just can’t afford a car right. My mum doesn’t mind running us around but will not drive illegally so can not take all of us in the car. So i don’t feel like its fair not too go on outings when they go on outings with their mum

This is completely fair, please don’t worry about it and cause yourself any stress. It’s yours and your kids lives too x