I need some uplifting

So back in January I gave birth via c section to a beautiful and healthy baby girl. All went well during surgery
But the day after I suffered a seizure which lead to the discovery I have mengioma luckily its benign (non cancerous) and slow growing but now I need another surgery this week to have it removed. Going to Kings hospital London this week
In between this, my c section got a really bad infection so had to be put on strong antibiotics (metronidazole) which really increased my anxiety and heart palpitations.
Also my grandad passed away during all this
This is while dealing with normal postpartum hormones and trying to help my husband with our little girl.

The good news is that my parents have taken her for this week but i feel really guilty as my mum is trying to deal with her grief while looking after my daughter (over a month old now)
Although stopped taking the antibiotics still feeling the side effects 2 days later
I'm just exhausted physically and mentally.
My husband had been amazing trying to reassure me but bless him hes exhausted as well-the family is tbh.

Can someone just give me some encouragement.

Thank you xx

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First off let me say I’m so sorry that you have had to endure this and I couldn’t possibly begin to claim I understand what you’re going through but I just want you to know that even though it feels dark right now you will get though this. just know that you’re not alone and your little girl is cheering you on and so are we☺️

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That sounds like a lot to go through in such a short space of time. Try to rest as much as you can while you've got the chance and remember your little one may be a bit of a challenge for your mum at this time but looking after her will provide a much needed distraction and give her purpose and focus in a time when a lot of people struggle with feeling a little lost and alone. She'll help her heart heal x

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