Routines for your 2021 baby

2.5- routine went out the window before Christmas, with illness after illness.

Now I'm struggling with her and I just can't cope; I need a routine back as much as she does. Everything is a constant battle with her. I mean everything. I can't break things down with her until I've got a routine.

Everything that could spiral out of control is already there.

What are your routines with your toddler please?

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damn, seems like we r all in the same boat.
Currently battling bedtime routine!

We were the same! Bed time was just hell we dreaded it, I slept in his room for 2 months because otherwise he would be up every 5 minutes, or be in our bed! In Friday we started a star chart with a reward at the end and touch wood everything has gone so well he settled into it amazing! So we do dinner, bath, pjs, story and sleep x

Wasn’t sure whether you meant daily or nighttime but here’s our typical full day (when not at work):
Wake up about between 6-6.30am and play before breakfast at about 7.30am, earlier if he asks for it.
We get washed and dressed about 8am and then he plays or watches the iPad while I get showered and dressed. Then we either play/do crafts or go out to pass the time until lunch about 12 and then chill and wind down for nap time around 1pm. Wake up no later than 3pm, play until tea time at 5pm, then chill until bath at 6.30pm. Then he has milk, watches TV (I let him pick what he wants to watch) and then brush teeth and bed by 7.40pm. Go easy on yourself, it’s hard at times but it’s never forever, even though it feels like it at the time xx

Routine is hard. My boy liked structure and knowing what's next! I'm constantly one step ahead!
We get dressed on waking or he won't agree! Breakfast ASAP! He likes structure with meal times, when, where to sit and he helps move toys away before we eat. We've slowly built patterns into out day. Don't know if this helps at all

7-7:30: wake up
7-8: brush teeth, breakfast
8-10: play with toys self led
10-12: go out for a walk
12-1: lunch
1-3: tv time or quiet play time (depends if she’s been a bit bratty as tv can make her behaviour deteriorate… or if I need a break!) usually have a healthy snack at this point. Or ‘coffee club’ (warm milk and a bit of sweet treat) if I need it 😂
3-5: messy/active indoor play
5-6: plays with daddy after he comes home from work while I cook dinner
6-6:30: dinner
6:30: bathtime
6:45-7:15 ish: calming storytime in dim lights
7:15-7:30: bedtime

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Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.

Help

My LO every feed. Drs don’t seem to think it’s a problem the whole Muslim cloth gets soaked so much I’m using towels now. I’ve tried size O teats he gets really frustrated and still spills it out :(

Of these two, which seems more overall “demanding” to you, overall? Lighthearted poll, not putting anyone down 🫶🏼

As a mum who breastfed for 3 years, I think formula feeding seems 100x harder and more demanding. I give those mamas all the credit because I could not keep up with that faff haha. I truly don’t understand why people say breastfeeding is more effort, other than the fact that no one else can do it. But personally I’d take that over endless bottle prep & cleaning.