Cheating?
So I found my partner on dating apps, I’m not sure how long he has been n it for but I suspect it has been a while as I could feel emotional detachment from him even during the pregnancy.
We had a conversation about this and he said he has stopped and won’t be seeking the vibes that he was apparently looking for from other women.
I’m willing to give him a chance but obviously he needs to show that he changed and rebuild the trust in relationship that was broken.
However, this is not the end of this. I have also found out that he has some so called friend who he is chatting to 24/7 calling each other babe, and the person gives him cooked food. I don’t know what sort of arrangement they have between them but this hurts me a lot. I explained to him how I feel and I clearly said that I don’t do multiple partners and I want us to be exclusive, I expressed this many times before as this is not the first time I’m finding out stuff like this.
My partner has a loads of friends(male &female) and I don’t deny him any friendship but don’t you think this is bit over the line?
Just before I found out that I was pregnant, again I also found out that he had different person in his life calling him babe, saying I miss your ass, he was inviting her to his house etc.
I can honestly tell that I’m exhausted emotionally and I don’t know whether I can trust this person.
He always says the he does the need full and I shouldn’t complain, that I can try to look for another man that they will treat me worse than him. He does live with us now and does shopping and other errands which I’m grateful for and I really appreciate. However he did tell me that I’m boring and other stuff and I just feel like we are not compatible at all. I don’t wanna be forcing something, obviously decisions are difficult now since we have our child together but I honestly need to protect myself at this stage from all the disappointments.
What do you think about the friend who he calls babe? Do you think it could be a genuine friendship ?
Also would you forgive after seeing you partner on dating apps having dirty convo with other females?
How would you approach this whole situation and would you at this point call the relationship off ?
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Hi hun, I’ve been there & was 20 weeks when we hit our brick wall. We’d been together 6 years. 1 pregnancy loss in 2020 and back then, currently pregnant. My feelings were that I’d caught him before, we’d had the “sorry, it won’t happen again” discussion and I then found out…that it did indeed happen again. After that, I refused to let myself be underneath his control any longer. All the talk of finding someone worse than him is a manipulation tactic to make you feel in the wrong for HIS bad behaviour. It’s his way of excusing his actions and isn’t ok.
It’s hard and I 1000% understand as being pregnant does complicate it that whole lot more. But I thought of it in the sense of ‘what would I teach my child from this?’. I didn’t want him growing up thinking that this treatment of women is ok and for my own MH and sanity, I left. Best decision I’ve ever made & baby and I are thriving doing our own thing 🩵 Message me if you want to talk about it with someone who has done it! Xx
I would not be forgiving that…. Especially not when you are pregnant!!!! That should be when someone is showing you the respect you deserve when you are carrying their baby. It is your decision and I guess only you can make it BUT going off how I’ve felt when this happened I never got over it and just know that it usually happens again.
You need to do what’s right for you but I feel that this may not get better and you really really deserve so much more!!! ❤️
💔😭 he's not ready to be done with others.. I am sorry you're going through this. A lot of times I actually do believe people can overcome infidelity in a relationship but this is more than a one person accident or a one night stand.. he has actively searched for other women on dating apps.. he is in a relationship with someone else while still trying to pretend to be exclusive with you. You have a very sound perspective on this. you know what you need to do at this point.
It doesn't sound like it's just over the phone or "emotional cheating" either .. like how does he receive cooked food from someone that calls him babe? Like.. it sounds like they meet up. He's probably eager and happy to run errands solely so he has time to call or meet up with whoever he's attached to.
exactly my thought
Leave him!!!
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