Not feeling emotional my baby is now 1

Everyone I've spoken to said they got really emotional/sad/depressed when their babies turned one. I don't feel this way at all, I just feel 'normal' I'm obviously happy but I just feel like I'm the only one not getting upset. Am I the only one?

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Same! Obviously it’s cool I’ve kept him alive for a year and love him to pieces but I’m not like OMG HE’S ONE!!!!!! or sad/emotional about it or anything 🤷‍♀️

yes that's exactly how I feel! I'm so glad someone else feels like, I honestly thought I was the only one!

It's my little boys first birthday today and it's lovely that it's his birthday and i love him to pieces but I'm not feeling really gushy or over the top about it. Plus he is unwell so doesn't feel much like a birthday 🤦🏼‍♀️

You are not the only one although I felt the same as just felt normal too and nothing emotional like lots of mum's have stated. I'm just happy we made it through a year without any major issues

Yes I’m the same! I feel like I’m quite excited for her to get to the next stage because she’s my first. Whereas I think with another child I might feel differently about it!

I wasn’t emotional like sad like oh my baby is growing up😭 I’m excited

I’m the same!

I’m actually glad he’s getting to 1! That newborn stage was traumatic then the 6 month mark was horrific too. Now he’s up and walking about he’s such a happy baby so I think that’s why I’m not ‘ooohhh I want my tiny baby again’

Honestly I'm more upset my eldest is turning 10 in a few months 😅😅

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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