Husband fell for thirst trap!

I might be overreacting but seeing that just made me so sad postpartum, when I’m already dealing with body issues. My perspective is how would anyone see that and not realize what it is? He’s got to be lying. If it’s that I’d rather have him just tell me honestly he slipped up and knew what he was doing, But then again he tends to lack common sense with certain things and I could genuinely see him being like “hmmm? What is that!” Innocently.

I don't wanna be that guy but.. i definitely feel that screenshot was taken for reasons we all understand why. He screenshot it "to see what it was"? Its obviously a half naked woman lol.. the screenshot wouldn't tell him any additional context than that so imo i think he was saving that for later and forgot to delete it, but of course why would he admit that?

This is coming from someone who discovered my husband has a porn addiction (it is what it is) and he looked at it the entire time i was pregnant and lied about it until I found a poem he wrote admitting it lolol dudes are dumb.. it wouldnt even be such a big deal if he was just honest about it 🤷‍♀️ the lying is the problem for me

Girl exactly!! I felt a little goofy at first cuz it felt like such a small thing, but the lying is the problem for me too! Porn addiction SUCKS but if he could admit his problem, be honest, and tell me when he slips up it’s whatever, I think I’m kinda chill where it comes to it because i understand the addiction aspect, not saying it’s okay to go behind my back. It’s just so confusing because he normally is honest when he slips up, is literally in counseling for this, and hasn’t happened in forever!

Is this something worth leaving him over?? Alone no, but I’m scared if I let it go it’s gonna turn into something bigger!

Also lemme know if you wanna dm! I posted this incognito just in caseee but I think we’d get along lol

Porn addiction is SO prevalent. Even guys you think are "good" can get caught up with it.

I wouldn't say this is immediately something worth leaving him over. I would try to work it out. But porn is a form of cheating. He's literally having mind sex with other women and his own body. It is addictive, and destructive. It changes the way he can relate to you sexually, and he will start to see other women in his head instead of you/expect things of you that he has seen. It also causes you to numb to the sexual experience, making you have to look for a new thing to get you "high". This leads to cheating, abusing, lying, and many other things that destroy the relationship. What porn does to your brain is actually the same as what heroine does to your brain. All that to say, it IS serious. Very serious. And if he doesn't change, that is 100% means to leave him. You deserve better. You don't deserve a husband who is addicted to other women or a false sexual experience.

If he is willing to be helped, try. But DON'T let yourself be abused. Know when to draw the line. Maybe find a counselor for you too, someone you can talk to about this. Someone who can help you identify if he is changing or not. Someone who can help you know if you need to leave. Because you don't deserve to be abused in that way.. The lying, the cheating, sneaking, unfaithfulness... Porn is cheating. And no one deserves to be treated like that in a relationship.

I’d be more pissed about him making a lame excuse. If you’re caught, time to just tell the truth and have a conversation like an adult.