Sleep

My baby won’t sleep anywhere but my arms. I feel like crying. She’ll be flat out and the second I put her down she’s awake. She’ll be asleep and cry until I pick her up. I obviously can’t sleep with her in my arms. I’m exhausted. I’ve tried co sleeping but even then she’s crying. She just wants to be in my arms. She’s fine with day time naps so I don’t know why she’s like this all of a sudden! Help!!

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My son is the same! He only naps on my chest or my arms. If I put him down, he wakes up immediately or after a few minutes crying. I can’t do anything in the house; even cooking is hard.
I am lucky to at least be able to co-sleep. He refuses his crib. I just hope it gets better 🙏🏼

Just a thought you could try swaddling, my baby would wake up as soon as I put her down and I wasn’t sure if it was being out of my arms or her startle reflex but when I’d try to lather down she’d just be up, when she starts falling asleep I’d put her in a receiving blanket and swaddle hold her til she’s all the way asleep and then put her down

My baby did this for first 2 and a half months. I would be in tears because I would try and put him down and he would cry, after 3 attempts I would give up. It was really getting me down so I took the stress away and did contact naps. I was more relaxed and I just had to let things like house work go for a while. Now he’s a little bit older he goes down in hit cot in the morning for his first nap and then has two contact naps. Not ideal but it was better for me because I was feeling like I was doing something wrong.
My friend suggested putting baby in the pram and going for a walk (in the day obviously) and then if baby drops off to sleep to leave baby in the pram in the hall so he got used to lying flat x

my lo is 4months old and never been swaddled so I don’t know if she will like it… I may give it a go tho!

it’s weird because she used to sleep through the night!! This has only just started. She’s 4m old now and it started a few weeks ago. It’s just so draining, it wouldn’t be so bad if it was through the day but it’s all night long and I can’t contact sleep because I’m scared I’ll roll on her😢😢😢

oh yeah I wouldn’t contact sleep of a night. You’re doing great! I know it’s tiring, have you got an amber light? Or use white noise? I’ve heard of the 4 month sleep regression, maybe this is it?? Xx

I thought sleep regression!! She’s also got two teeth so teething early so may also be a contributing factor! I’ve tried white noise but it doesn’t help! Xxx

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He doesn’t copy actions, point, clap etc. He doesn’t react when being spoken to, or to his name. He actively avoids eye contact.

He was so unresponsive to sound that we just had his hearing tested concerned he was deaf. They found that he could hear so he is just choosing not to react to any noises or sounds.

Has anyone else had similar experiences with their little ones? Should I be raising this with the health visitor and ask to be assessed for neurodivergent issue or a social communication problem like autism?

I don’t want to just slap a label on him, but I do feel that there are real concerns. All opinions welcome!!

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.