Struggling

Me and my partner can’t agree on anything he is being really unsupportive, all he talks about is work. Hasn’t helped me with money and some weeks I have really struggled. I’m due back to work next month and have been really emotional about it, and arguing is just draining me, we sit in silence most nights in a small home. I really don’t know what to do

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I feel you
Exactly same boat
Best of luck

I also know how you are feeling. I’m fortunate to get to stay home but I pay all my bills.

You’re not alone, although pregnancy itself and all its rollercoaster of emotions can make you feel alone. It’s especially hard when you think that person should be the one giving you the support and understanding you need & seek. Try to speak to somebody about it, a friend, family, mum group. Don’t let it consume you🫶🏼 I’ve learnt that pregnancy and motherhood and is really an experience for women to find a home and security within themselves, because men won’t understand the feeling. I hope you are able to find some happiness or support elsewhere if not from him. Don’t give up❤️

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?