Is being a full time mom a job?

My partner use to say it was easy cause my daughter use to act like angel for him until she started being naughty for him too I now have 2 and he doesn’t even complain when the house work isn’t done anymore I think in some cases being able to stay at home is a privilege as some families can’t afford and need both parents working but I’m guessing that’s not what he’s meaning and I know being a stay at home mum is extremely hard

100% being a SAHM isn’t a job it’s a damn internship, we do not get paid, at least nanny’s and daycares get paid fr and are being milked, pooped on or thrown up on and so much more. Tell him switch place with you for a week completely without your help. Then see how it isn’t a job

i mean if it’s not you doing it then it will b y’all paying someone to do it . it’s a 24/7 job you don’t get a alone lunch break lol

it’s a job that has no pay. the hardest job at that ! you need to show him the statistics (differs by state) of how much money a stay at home mom saves a year. the childcare, the cooking, cleaning driving to school, teaching, etc where i am it saves $186,000-$200,000 so unless your husband wants to pay you that much for what you do tell him to shut it because you’re doing all that for free !! so if i choose a career outside of my home should i not be paid simply because i chose that career ? please put him in his place lol

I’m actually a nursery practitioner and let me tell you. Having your own baby is 1000% harder than looking after the daycare kids because you are on call for the rest of your life. My partner made a comment about him working and not getting a weekend off here and there when they’re busy and I said I’ve been ‘on call’ for three months straight, no weekends, evenings, days, hours to myself. Once he could see it from that perspective he changed his tune and now takes the baby as soon as he gets home so I can have a brew in peace 🙈

I think it is privilege to be able to be a SAHM but that by no means makes it any less a job! A fulfilling and exhausting one at that. Also “you chose it so it’s not a job”, as if people don’t choose their job or career…

I feel like all men were programmed the same way because of the amount of stupidity that goes through their head. Like as if no one chooses what job they do 🤦🏽‍♀️😂 also there are STAD’s too, maybe you should make him one for a week and I’m sure he would struggle in just the first day, that will make him take back what he said in an instant!

Does he not choose to go to his workplace clearly not a job either? men’s thought process is insane

i second this!!!! not even a week do a day and he will soon realise!!! Raising these children is NOT easy!!!!

You being a SAHM is a privilege for both of you (honestly mostly him) AND it IS a job. If you weren’t doing it y’all would be paying someone else to do it. Not only that y’all would have to hope they are doing right by your child! You can’t trust everyone with your children! Juggling a baby with both parents working outside the home would be more stress for him too.

I don’t classify it as a job because I don’t get paid lol but saying it’s not a job because you chose to do it is kind of stupid. I chose all the jobs I had before becoming a stay at home mom. It wouldn’t make sense to say those weren’t jobs just because I chose to do them

Thanks everyone for the insight. He has said that if he were to switch me roles he would do it better than me. And god forbid he ever did struggle he would never tell me and I would have no idea what would go on without me around just based off the tiny solo trips I take to the store I just know how it would go. I don’t think he’s gonna let me be right about this one. So I have to give up this lifelong dream of being a stahm and go work so either he or someone else can watch my kids all because he doesn’t value me enough to support me how I need I guess that’s what it comes down to right?

That’s bs. It is a full time job. I did it before my daughter was 1 and it’s tiring but tbh I’d rather go back to doing it than both of us working and being tired all the time. I had to wake up early in the morning when she woke up and I didn’t get to take a nap even when she did sometimes because I’d use that time to clean up and get other stuff done. Then if she was still asleep and everything was done, I’d watch tv if I wasn’t tired or I’d join her and take a nap

Update: he just told me you are all wrong and it’s disrespectful of us to say such things

lol he’s just a stereotypical guy that thinks it’s the 50s

It’s literally a job because if sahm were out working someone with A JOB at a daycare would be doing all the things moms do with the kids when home

i’m so sorry you have to deal with a guy like this. just hearing his responses i know he’d be out in the streets if it were my husband. i’d honestly stoop low at this point and tell him if staying home is so easy then making enough money to support us should be easier so he’s slacking