Mothers day and husband not wanting to upset his mum

That’s so wild. He wants to take your son to his mum to celebrate Mother’s Day? That’s his mother, not your sons.

Also, why can’t he split the day? Do breakfast with his mum & do lunch/dinner with you?
Are you planning to see your mum?

I think if you two sit down and plan/communicate properly you can work it out.
Sometimes men can be really daft.

If My husband did this I would be fuming. But more than anything I would be so upset that he would be more worried about his mums feelings regarding something she should be grown up enough to understand then making sure we could have a nice day spend together the 3 of us.
I would also be a child about it and say go spend the day with your mum but you won’t be taking our son because I’m also a mother and I’m spending the day with our son then when Father’s Day comes around make sure I didn’t do anything to celebrate for him so he could see how it hurts. But my Advice sucks and luckily my husband hasn’t done this to me

i don’t celebrate holidays like this but

if he thinks only his mother deserves respect and appreciation from him on mothers day, then they have no right to take your child because you are his mother.
leaving you out of a family gathering to “honor” his mom?? and then taking your child to celebrate her but not you?? ridiculous

This is ridiculous- he wants to take your son away from you to celebrate his mom? Yeah - no. I agree with a family therapist if he has to appease his mom. He will do this again and again.

I would ask him if he realizes ur a mother too??? And also ask him if it sounds right or okay that a mil would be upset about their son celebrating THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD on MOTHERS DAY??? This is so stupid I would let him know he is not taking my son to his grandmother on Mother’s Day because how tf does it make any sense for a child to be away from his MOTHER on MOTHERS DAY???? Definitely have a talk and put some sense into him. He can plan a separate day to go celebrate his mom or split the day but your child stays with YOU

Does his mum still breastfeed him or????? Tell him to unlatch and grow the fuck up. You should be his priority now. I told mine this is my first Mother’s Day therefore I won’t be spending it rushing around all day to see either of them! We’ve arranged to see my mum Saturday and his mum the following week (due to her now having plans anyway thankfully) and Sunday is for our family.
If he wanted to go see her though I told him he is welcome to but I’ll be with my daughter regardless.
This is not on

Wow.. I feel hurt for you! That's totally out of order! I would talk to your partner.
How would he feel if you organized a day our with your family and son and not him for farthers day?!
Shame on your inlaws as well for pushing you out!
Personally, I would say no, and you can all rearrange when you ALL of you can go out!
Also, I would just go out you and your son for actual mother's day. And leave your partner to see his mummy if he's so worried about upsetting her!!

That’s disgusting!!!

Just to clarify (as it's not actually clear from the wording of the post), does your husband plan on taking your son to your in laws on Mother's day?

I would have no objection to my husband wanting to spend mother's day with his own mother whilst I spend it with my own mother and my son. I'd also have no objection to us all celebrating mothers day together as a nuclear family the following Sunday. Unpopular opinion but it sounds perfectly sensible to me! We are all different though and if the proposal upsets you, I'd suggest just telling him that it's really important to you that you celebrate mother's day and your motherhood as a nuclear family on mothers day with your son.

For those who are suggesting that a wife should be her husband's priority on mothers day, I'd be interested in knowing why you think this? I think that if you're married, your wife should take priority most of the time. However, it's not clear to me why on "mothers" day, a man should be prioritising his wife over his own mother.