Why is it so hard to make friends as adults??

I completely agree. I think it’s just being busy, especially once summer rolls around. Kids are in sports, so that takes up a lot of free time in a mom’s schedule. It’s rough. For me, it’s also living in Norfolk. I’m from here, and only lived out of the county for about 3 years. All my friends left and didn’t come back, so there’s an hour plus travel time, scheduling, etc. It’s just difficult all around.

Yes, the kids' sports definitely takes up a lot of free time! Then when your not doing the running around for the sports all you want to do is have some chill time 🙄 ahah

I also see your point about living in this area, for myself the people I once was close with didn't really mo e away but more so our personality and priorities changed which led to us drifting in different directions, I also notice and this may just be my observation, is certain areas around here are very clicky, I have found a few times going to mom groups through this area that it can be very hard to create friendships with some as it's almost like their friend card is full lol that may just be social anxiety talking though 🤔🙃

Yes!!!! Completely agree, it can be very clicky! It’s definitely not just you. I also joined a couple mom groups and just felt like an outsider, and too much drama, ya know what I mean? I’m not interested in stuff like that. I just want some local mom friends who want to meet up at one of the cute little coffee shops or wineries or microbreweries and talk about cool places they’ve traveled to, movies, music, stuff like that. I don’t care what Suzy in accounts heard about Janet in marketing, I don’t know them hahaha!!

Aha, yes!! Exactly! I feel that 1000%, lol. I think you and I need to have a coffee chill this summer!

Oh yes, let’s please enjoy warm weather on a patio with coffees (and maybe treats)!!

I'm so in! We will definitely plan something!

I felt going to mom groups just a couple of times that they already had their friendships established. I moved to Norfolk from the GTA in 2021 and have yet to make any friends outside work. It's kinda depressing. I have my friends from highschool and we get together but I'm so far away it's not the same as just getting together randomly. We have to plan weeks in advance

So I'm here hoping to make some local friends!

Yes, I find the same with the mom groups and even the groups of moms at the school, at drop off and pick up, everyone seem to already have their group. At our old school I would park and walk up and stand a chat with other moms from my kids class while the kids played for a bit after-school, we unfortunately switch Schools a couple years ago and I tried for a year to do the same with moms there and they all had their group and made it noticeable they were not interested in opening that up, it got to the point I felt so awkward at pick up that now I wait in my vehicle, and that's unfortunate 🤷‍♀️

yes! I was so excited for my son to start school so I could make friends with his friends moms! It’s not really going to plan.. there’s small talk at pickup, but hasn’t amounted to anything and it’s been two years. So… I don’t know. We had my son’s first birthday party with school friends last February and I thought this will be the perfect opportunity to really get to know these moms because they were invited to stay for the party. All the moms just dropped their kids off 😔 I was a little disappointed, but I get that it was some kid free time for them to get stuff done or just have some time to themselves. So that plan backfired a little bit.

All my friends live far too, and get togethers are few and far between. It’s great when it happens, and it’s like no time has passed at all, but it can sometimes take months to plan anything. We all have very different careers, so it’s difficult to find time that works for everyone unfortunately.

I had the same thoughts when my oldest started school as well and with the birthday party's!! And the same thing as you're explaining

Oh my gosh, I spent two weeks prepping my house for the party, I washed baseboards!!! Nobody stayed, nobody saw how clean they were 🤦‍♀️😂

Well I'm up for getting together!

@Meghan ahah that sounds like me every time we have a get together, I'm feeling a bit better knowing I'm not the only one that does this 🥰

2 of my 4 kids had friends over yesterday, so I of course super cleaned the house, I walked into my son's room after his friend was gone and I swear I don't even understand how they trashed it the way the did... I just started at if for a second processing what I was looking at 😬

@Mimi we will definitely plan something with the nicer weather coming! I was so excited yesterday being outside and not freezing lol

@Meghan I just did this for a get together at my house lol. No one saw the baseboards or window sills

I feel like guests should look at the baseboards as soon as they come in, and if they’re clean, rave about how great they look! If they’re dirty, say nothing! Lol!

oh I hear you, I don’t understand how quickly kids can destroy a space! Like, how?!

@Meghan ahah I will be from here on out be complimenting people's baseboards! That's a compliment that would make my day.

As for the mess I don't even know, the curtain was down, clothes pulled out, and every toy out of the closest was scattered around the room 😵‍💫 that was the 9 years olds.. the teenagers, ahah, I seen them once as they were getting cookies

Typical teenagers haha! I hid in my room a lot too, mostly because I wanted to listen to music and my family wasn’t so much into punk rock lol!