struggling with one and done

my daughter is almost 3. obviously i’m in the thick of motherhood but i truly don’t think i can have another child mostly because im already exhausted all the time and mentally i am struggling and will only get worse with another. however i feel so guilty about not giving my daughter a sibling and have been crying all the time because of that guilt. im so torn 🥺

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I totally get how you are feeling. My son is almost 3. I always thought I want 2 kids but my perspective on that has changed and it’s not easy to let go the life you have imagined in your mind. I’m not too torn but I do have a bit of a guilt about it.

Coming to terms with not giving my child a sibling was a challenge, but I realized that it's better for my child to have a present and involved version of me, instead of being so exhausted and just going through the motions to get through. I chose to give my child the best version of myself and not spread myself too thin. It's important to remember that giving them a sibling doesn't guarantee a close relationship, so it's okay to focus on what's best for your family. We all have a different capacity, and that's perfectly okay. Give yourself grace and know that you're doing what is best for your child. ❤️

thank you ladies! reading both of your messages puts me more at ease and makes me feel less alone in this. i’m being asked all the time when i’m having another and the thought of dealing with 2 kids is more dreadful than exciting to me. i’d rather regret not having another than regret having another kid. i appreciate your feed back 💗💗

I have one child and I’m what is considered one and done as well! My cson is now 4 yrs old! & I love it! I don’t plan on having anymore children & the way I see it sibling or not she’ll still turn out amazing! 🥰In my opinion it’s not necessary for a child to have siblings. They can always get older and make friends that way or you can have play dates now. It’s up to you! Nothing to feel bad about at all!

Girl only child life is amazing lol I didn’t have any siblings and I never wanted them.

Honestly, I was only planning to have 1 but then we were hit with twins so 🤷‍♀️

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My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

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Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.