I’m 8 months pregnant

"Recently, my boyfriend's behavior has left me feeling abandoned. He prepares his meals, leaving me to fend for myself, while he indulges in the comfort of the living room. This selfish and bizarre behavior makes me question his presence, and at times, I find myself longing for a different reality. How can he enjoy his food while I, pregnant and in need, am left to figure things out on my own? Why not even consider buying food for us both?"

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I think confront him about it, that's not cool. But could also be a misunderstanding x

Ummm... I would have said something straight to his face already the second he had food for himself and not for the 2 of you. That behavior isn't okay, and he, as a soon to be father, should understand that. Confront him about it. 😬

he’s trying eat shit I can’t eat like deli sandwiches

He’s honestly useless if you ask me he won’t do anything but play the fucking game

I did he gonna say you didn’t want want I was eating clearly

Just because you think you know how he will respond to you asking him about his behaviour, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still tell him that it is not ok. If he plans on eating sandwiches with deli meat he can still think of you and either stop somewhere to grab you something else or make you different food. You need to state the expectations you have of him or else his behaviour will never change. People will treat you the way you allow them to.

I don’t have a problem speaking my mind at all

@Nique

I wouldn't put up with that kinda childish behavior, and if he can't have the sympathy to also make you something that you can or will eat... without you having to ask, is just wrong on so many levels.

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