Fussy baby

Since birth my baby (has no tongue tie it was checked for at whtheshawe hospital) she’s been super fussy and doenst drink easily she’s cries alot n I have to sit for a good literal hour tryna get her to feed and even then at four months she’s BARELY drinking four oz a feed! 😭😭😭is this normal and why is she like thisnong she does wet nappies etc but I have to spend my entire day just getting her to drink and everyone including doctors aha said she’s underweight but I can’t force her to eat why she won’t eat idk I thought babies love milk - esp she loves the bottle she hate my breast 🥺

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Hey Mama, sounds like a really tough time for you! Sounds like a very similar situation that I had with my first bub. I can't recommend enough seeking the advice of an IBCLC to help support you with breastfeeding and getting weight on your bub.

It sounds like your little girl has bottle preference, if she'll drink from the bottle and not the breast.

The early months are tough but shouldn't be this hard. With the right support you can do this!

Depending on where you are located, there should be a maternal health hotline on breastfeeding support line you can call for assistance.

Good luck Mama!! 💕💕

Have you ever received a second (or third, fourth etc) opinion regarding the tongue tie? I’ve been having the same problem, my bub is super fussy with feeds, pops on and off the breast, cries and mine also doesn’t take a bottle. I was told by the hospital, paeds, different doctors that she doesn’t have a tongue tie. I saw another LC and paediatric nurse the other day who SHOWED me (not just stuck their finger in her mouth for two seconds) her lip and tongue tie! We have the procedure booked in for tomorrow so I’m praying for a world of difference. Good luck mama, I hope you find the answers you need soon. I know how hard it is, sending you lots of love x

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Did you wait a certain amount of time or have it done immediately?
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Hi I have a 16 day old via c section, I'm a FTM never having been around babies before as I am the youngest of my household and from a small family. My husband is fantastic with our little one. But ever since I've had the baby I just feel like the only thing I'm good for is producing milk. I feel disconnected from my husband like the only reason he's around is because am producing milk. We were having some issues before the baby and we're struggling it took a while to feel like he was onboard even though he said he was from the moment we found out. I dunno if I'm feeling like a spear part because I'm lacking confidence with baby or because I feel like he wouldn't mind being a single dad. Is this postpartum hormones or something else?

How long did it take for your child’s circumcision to heal and you could give him a bath?

I’ve just been wiping him down with a fiber wash cloth but I just wanted to know from others experience on how long it took

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