He's not the one

So I've been with my boyfriend for a 1.5 now. I got pregnant and he had mixed emotions about it. We were at a good place at the time and he said he wanted her. But later in the pregnancy, I had a lot of hormones and he's prideful af so we bumped heads a lot and numerous times he told me to get an abortion. But since she's been here, he's been a good father and helping to provide what she needs. That's great but me and him never been the same pre-pregnancy..relationship-wise. I don't feel the spark with him anymore and lowkey feel like he's not the one for me, mostly bc of all the fights and toxicity that went on while I was pregnant. We just bump heads a lot and the love is dying out. Any advice on what to do? I feel like bc of the pregnancy, I've gotten to see his true colors and his real personality. And i dont fuck with it at all. We're just very different and it's like we don't "click" anymore.

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I'm sorry you had to deal with that while you were pregnant. This happened to me with my first child's father. We had a great relationship before I got pregnant and had been together over 2 years. Then while I was pregnant he was horrible to me and I broke it off after my daughter was born. Like you said, I saw his true colors and decided he wasnt the one qnd that it was better for myself and my daughter to just end things.

I went through something similar with my husband!! Took a lot of work and family involvement for us to work it out. Only thing that kept us together was just love or at least the idea of the love we have for each other!

I am goint through the same thing right now and I just couldn’t handle it anymore so I decided to leave a week ago, this sucks because I want my family together but he thinks it’s all my fault when in reality I went through hell with him during my pregnancy….have you guys tried therapy? Have you voiced your concerns to him?

Hi ladies. I'm experiencing something similar. My due date is approaching though, I have about one month to go.

How did you ladies move on? I'm feeling confused and unsure how to handle this situation with a baby involved, especially since I lack financial stability. My plan is to start working a few months after the baby arrives. Did you ladies just pack your things and left? Are you doing it alone?

I’m 18 weeks and I know my baby daddy is not the man that I want to have a relationship with nor spend the rest of my life with so we are figuring out how we are going to coparent. Our son deserves to have his mom and his dad, even though we will not be in a relationship together.

It may be easier for me to understand since I never saw my own parents in a relationship together, but always had my mom and my dad in my life .

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Im a little desperate already . Im not a huge fan on blowjobs but I’m doing it because I know he likes it . If he wants it in a car, during work meeting , on the balcony, on the beach everywhere I’m okay to do that . However, I’m not getting anything in return. I mean the last time he went down was more than 1.5 years ago . Okay, I was pregnant maybe he did not feel like doing it while I had a belly as he told me . , but I’m not pregnant already for awhile and I’m always telling him that I want him to go down and he is always having an excuse like “tomorrow “ etc . At the beginning it was funny and I was like okayyy but now it’s not as I’m not enjoying our sex in general . Like the process itself does not make me finish . As I’m breastfeeding and super dry down there and I’m always telling him to put lubricant as it’s hurting me . And sometimes it feels like I am begging for that as he is more comfortable without it , but damn IM NOT OKAY without it . So basically I do not remember when was the last time I have finished during sex . I understand that now with a baby it’s hard to fully enjoy it and have enough time for everything. But still . Just kiss me and put your dick inside me does not seems sexy . To be honest I understand why in marriage women does not want to have sex . Like I feel like it’s already work that I have to do not a pleasure. I’ve been telling him that but as I can see no changes applied 🫠

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Hey mamas! I’m back on here again hoping to find good friendships on here ! I didn’t really have any luck last time . I’m giving this another try again ! I’m 26 with two little girls I have a 4 year old and 8 months old and I am stay at home mom rn . I’m hoping to find friends who understand my situation and be able to talk everyday when they can . And I’ll be getting married in July .

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