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Rant

I’m going to apologize I’m advance. This is going to be a VERY long post.

I started talking to this guy that my 2 best friends knew from work (I worked where he worked as well) and things clicked in Jan 2023. We started dating and everything was perfectly fine. We did the deed and boom, I get pregnant. Before I found out I was pregnant, him and I were already having trust issues. I felt something was very off. One night, I spent the night with him, he fell asleep and I went through his phone. I started reading messages from this one female (let’s call her M). M and my bd seemed sooooo close. There was constant ‘I love you’ and ‘I miss you’. And then there was a few texts about them getting a hotel together in a different state… I was fired up when I read those text messages. She knew he was in a relationship with me but the way they were with each other was more like they were together than him and I.

Fast forward, I asked him about it all and told him I went through his phone… M was apparently his ‘childhood’ bff. Kinda hard to believe the way they messaged each other. After that, things kinda just went downhill.

My bd dad was never really in the picture. He was very inconsistent. And so my bd only had his mother.

The day I found out I was pregnant (March 2, 2023) he broke up with me OVER TEXT. I then told him I was pregnant, over text. He wanted me to get an abortion and I wouldn’t do it. He kept telling me he wasn’t ready and he needed time to figure life out (he is 25 at this time) At the same time, I was working part time while attending college full time and the extra curriculars I was involved.

He moved 2 hours away from me in March to be with his momma. He is such a mommas boy that I can’t even get him to act like an adult. All he does is work and play video games and sleep.

My bd never came to my doctor’s appointment, never checked in on how I was doing or how the baby was doing. Not once. I always kept him in the loop because I am just a sweet person.

We have kept in contact until I was full term. I had chosen to get my induction Nov 6, 2023 at 6am. I told my baby daddy in advance and for days he would tell me to just keep him updated and he will be there to sign paperwork. He NEVER showed up at the hospital. He had blocked me from EVERYTHING. I was angry.

To present time, I had filed for child support before my daughter was born and it started to kick in after she was born. The last meeting we had was in February to just get all of our information. That is also when he was told he would get visitation rights to my daughter. He did also request DNA testing.

Again, DNA came back saying he was indeed the father by 99.99999999997%. We have an upcoming meeting in a couple of days and I’ve been worried sick. My daughter only knows me and my parents, that is all. If I leave the room for a short period, my daughter will freak out. Them innocent brown eyes she gives me literally makes me cry. She gives me the look of abandonment. Something I will never do because I was once abandoned by my bio mom.

First of all, I want my daughter to know her father but I can’t just drop her off at his mother’s house. He needs to know her and she needs to know him while I am around.

Second, he has never been there for me my whole entire pregnancy, I am her mother. I’m supposed to protect her from being hurt, especially if they are going to be inconsistent.

Third, my bd has no clue on how to take care of babies nor does he ANYTHING for her. I know that if I drop her off at his house/mom’s house she will be doing all the work, not him. I need him to be the parent, not anyone else.

Lastly, how could I go on about terminating his rights but still get child support? Or have it where he only has visitation rights… or I decide when he can see her.

If it helps, I live in Texas and I am just needing help going through this patch of my life.