Sleep…I wish I knew her 🙃
So for the past week and a half my 4 month old has been waking up multiple times in the middle of the night (thanks sleep regression). I have been exhausted, not really getting any sleep and still waking up to pump and then looking after baby all day. Husband can’t do any of the wake ups because he has work in the morning.
Well a couple of days ago I was complaining about how tired I am and my husband said something like “I wake up too and yes so tiring” lol he literally will wake up accidentally if the baby is crying and fall right back to sleep.
Anyway he said he would take the night wake ups and morning feed this weekend. He woke up once in the night and now for the babies 6am feed. He is complaining that he is is exhausted and can I take the baby if he doesn’t fall asleep during this feed. I told him to rock him back to sleep and sleep when the baby sleeps.
Was this a mean thing to do?
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You have a full day of work with your baby every day that you also need your sleep for , he has a full day at work .
You both share a baby
Let him do the work and let him complain and struggle, he will appreciate what you do and hopefully want to help you more
Not mean. Your husband should help when he can if you want him too. Mom life is not easy and we aren't married to be single parents. I will say helping him adjust to it might help yall both to be more of a team. And explain to him that just because your at home with the baby doesn't mean you're not working full time. Because you are.
Ah I feel for you! Your husband should definitely help more as it's bloody difficult for us mums. It's not like we spend the day napping! It's physically AND mentally draining carrying them round and having them scream in your face all day!
We're currently 2 weeks into sleep regression. The way that works for us is: we both go to bed once baby is down, usually 9/9:30 (baby takes a while to settle now!) I sleep in the nursery with baby while husband sleeps in the other room, this way he gets undisturbed sleep first. I stick it out for as long as I can, then around 4am when baby wakes I feed him and then swap with husband. So then I get about 3 hours undisturbed at the end of the night and husband tries to settle baby in the nursery. This way we both get some sleep...we get the same amount overall but mine is in 5 blocks of sleep, I guess that's the price to pay for breastfeeding!
Doing this makes it manageable for us. Find what works for you as a family, have an open discussion about how you're feeling. X
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