Cry method

Commenting as I'm curious to see what people say as this sounds exactly like my little boy. Sleeps fine when being held, as soon as put down for naps instantly wakes up crying, and getting to sleep at night in his next to me takes a long time

I really didn’t want to do this but just want to see people’s experiences
It’s dangerous to sleep with him my partner fidgets far too much and if we start sleepin g separately when does it end ?
At night he will go down for the first nap after 12 if we’re lucky it’s cry until I’m held will go back to sleep within seconds
He will go to nursery in July so I’m really thinking ahead too he will need to sleep without me then xx

Also let me add this will break my heart and be the hardest thing to listen too 😔

See I'm all for holding to sleep, and I do enjoy the snuggles and tell myself he won't want this forever, but then I constantly have my partner and mother in law saying oh when he's 6 months in his own room he'll have to learn to cry it out, you need to put him down for naps etc. It just makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong all the time, although it's clearly what my little boy wants/needs.

I get the 'let them cry it out' response often. I put a post up the other day about it and the responses were overwhelming. It's not what the baby needs, they need to feel safe, cared for, loved etc. I will keep holding my baby for as long as I can as like you said, it won't last forever. I am now at the stage where I can put my LO down drowsy and she 8/10 will stay asleep in the cot. The other times I pick her up and keep her in my arms until she is in a deeper sleep.

I’ve put the big cot in our room next to the bed with the side down so it’s safer for everyone and he still feels close to us, I hope this gives him some comfort I honestly don’t mind the snugs and would co op for much longer but when my partner nesrly rolls on top of him it is scary and very worrying so this is hoping our solution then when he’s settled more put the side up with a hand poking through slowly move it out my main concern was him!

First night tonight so let’s hope he feels just as snug as I don’t fidget at all such a light sleeper now that’s how I knew my partner was too close this morning. He’s still so little xx I will try the deep sleep suggestion ( wait till dummy falls out ) xx

the cry it out is so savage in my opinion the gentle approach seems much better but again just asking how people got on with these xx

I used CIO with my first as it got to the point where she was waking every hour overnight, and gentle methods made her worse! We put her in her own room, in a cot.

This was 2 years ago now so may not be exact, however 1st night she cried for 1hr, 2nd night was 30mins, 3rd night I was an idiot and went in to try and calm her and it made it so much worse! If there is one piece if advice its if you are going to do it be consistent and stick with it otherwise itll take longer! 4th night was 1hr, 5th night was 30mins, and then after that it was like 10mins, and then nothing. She had a comforter which she used to self settle herself. Once we did that sleep training she slept great, and still does! She was a much happier baby as well as she was getting the uniteruppted sleep she needed. It also meant if she cried overnight we knew there was something wrong so we'd immediately go in and sort her out. If we stayed in the room with her, she wouldn't go to sleep 🙈

I got the helping babies sleep method book. I never intended on doing any sleep training but my LO was taking up to 4 hours some evenings to rock to sleep. He is so heavy and I was really really struggling. He would fight sleep so much and wake up either immediately after I put him down or 20/30 mins later. He wouldn’t even sleep next to me in bed. Had to be on me. It was the gentlest method I could find. You are with them the whole time talking to them and touching them but you just can’t pick them up. I’m not going to lie it’s still very hard. He cried a lot the first night and I nearly quit but by the second night there were zero tears and mostly just complaints 😂 and now it takes 10 minutes and he puts himself to sleep and it’s only been a week. I still stay in the room until he’s asleep and give the occasional shush or pat if I think he needs it. He is not napping really well and is generally a lot happier I think.

Thank you for your replies ladies honestly it’s good to hear all views the first sleep has gone well it’s just the ones after this that are so hard on us both xx

He slept till 3am had a bottle and went back to sleep he obviously found that comfy x

I don't want to jynx it, but last night at about 10pm and now for his sleep on the sofa my little boy has managed to fall asleep without being held in my arms!! I still have to snuggle next to him so our heads are practically touching and he's holding my hand until he drifts off, but it seems to be soothing enough and I just have to become a ninja with stealthily moving away slowly 😂