Any new mommy would like to be friends?

So we can vent about how clueless our partners are when are told to look after our baby?😅

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🤣 this made me laugh so hard at the truth in this statement….

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Are they all this clueless?! I often get shocked at the questions he asks me sometimes 😳

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Me!

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Hi girls! Thanks for commenting! Yes! Not sure if it's genetic or they just pretend so we end up saying, "leave! I'll do it"😅

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😂😂😂

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So glad it isn't just me dealing with this! 🤣

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Yeah, even after six younger siblings and like 20+ fosters kids under the age of three in and out of his house you'd think hed already knew how to change a diaper and you wouldn't need to keep correcting him nine months in. Or because they're a man to know it'll go up out of the diaper if you don't flip it down. Men are an interesting species 🤣

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🤣🤣🤣..they are! I agree Jaelin! And then they complain about us girls saying "we are complicated" mine forgot our dog tied up outside store 3 times in a year!

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Told him to watch baby at 4 month old, while I get dress for my birthday, 6 seconds after a empty noise on the floor, follow by crying, she fall from bed, I almost kill him! We ended up at hospital on my birthday, she was fine thanks God, but just to make sure we went. Why is it so difficult for them to actually listen and pay attention to us? Is like we speak a foreign language

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Omgh yes!!!! So much truth in that statement lol

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I can totally relate! My 4 yr old fell when he was about 4-5 months old and I for some reason believed my husband who was also napping at the time next to my newborn on the right side of the bed saying it's okay to leave him, my son is on my side left side with a walkway on the edge of the bed and not move him to his bassinet which is also on the same side. No more than 5-10 mins later a big loud thud and my baby crying cuz he rolled over and landed right in between the bed stand and the cable cord extension on the floor and his head was on top of the carpet and towel. No bruises or bleeding. I blame myself for listening to the damn fool. He of course blamed himself. Luckily we rushed him to the ER and the doctor said he's fine that it's normal for babies to fall a lot 😑 I think in counting my son continues to fall somehow til this day and brushes it off like nothing. I think he stopped crying once we got in the car the day he fell.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Looking for more same age friends!!

Hi! I’m 23 and a stay at home (soon to be) mom. I have been having a tough time finding friends/women in similar circumstances to mine and would love to make some if possible! If you feel the same, let me know

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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Am I the only one that thinks blowjobs are boring?

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Fiancé won’t talk to baby

Am I being dramatic? Im 23 weeks and my fiancé refuses to talk to the baby. He touches my belly sometimes but that’s the most he’ll do. I brought it up to him saying it’s important for him to have bonding time with baby while baby is developing but he refuses and tells me not to dictate his relationship with his child. Is this a red flag?

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Hi Mums

I live in New Zealand and I’m really keen on finding a regular best friend to chat with. It’s incredibly lonely. I love Australia and I think it would be fantastic to have friends there. If you’re comfortable with long-distance friendships we could meet up in New Zealand. I also want someone to video call because I currently have no friends every single day. I feel really lonely because I don’t have a nice family. I just want friends to become family one day and of course I need to trust them first which is why I’m making this post. I just got married 🥹👰❤️

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