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I’ve been stay home mom for two years and now I have another one that’s three months old. OK my question is how do you guys have the energy after dealing with the kids to have sex with your husband.? or do you guys wait until the kids are all alseep it do you wait until it’s his day off and then you both know dealing with the kids. My man expects me to be ready for him when he gets home after dealing with the kids. How do you guys do it?

Yeah, I’ve tried to wait until my kids fall asleep but my two-year-old sometimes doesn’t go to bed until 1 o’clock in the morning my three month old is going through a sleep regression.

And then also dealing with my kids. I can barely clean up my house, so the days my husband‘s home I tried to clean up but every time that the kids fall asleep he’s always expecting sex, but it’s like I’m backed up on laundry I’m backed up on dishes. The floor hasn’t been swept in a couple days I haven’t showered in a couple of days.

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Your husband needs to do more so you have the time and energy. It’s unacceptable that he lets it go days where you don’t even get the time to shower and yet he expects to come home and be serviced. Absolutely not.

We have 4 kids, I’m pregnant with the 5th. I’ve told my husband that my responsibility as a stay at home parent is schedule management and being with the kids so they don’t have to go to daycare. Anything cleaning related is a family task. We all live here, we all contribute to the mess, we all help clean it up. And we all look out for each other and help each other.
I absolutely cannot have sex when I feel like I am doing everything alone. It’s exhausting and I refuse to take energy away from other things because someone thinks they have a right to my body. Ain’t happening. My husband learned that pretty quickly.

Your husband needs to help. Y’all are supposed to be partners and what you’re describing is not a partnership.

oh I tired. Plus I’m the only wine who stays up with him until one. But I forgot to mention it’s not like that everyday.

who my son?

some days he will take a nap early and some days it’s late. When it’s a late nap he will be up until one. I have tired to get him on a schedule but he is to active for me to calm down somedays

Adderall and a prayer

You're so tired because your husband isn't doing enough. Childcare is your job during the day but cleaning and laundry is a shared family task. He can't just be putting his feet up all evening and expecting you to be in mood. Tell him you might be if you didn't have so much else to think about and do!

I have but he never listens…soon as I get a job and get help I’ll probably leave I don’t want my son or my daughter thinking this is what a real man is.!

Eek! Ok, so this is a bigger issue than not being in the mood because you're tired and stressed. I'd give him a heads up about how serious it is but it's up to him whether he changes or not. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone I was planning to leave either 🙈

If your planning to leave, just plan to leave don’t even worry about his sexual needs because ur at your wits end. Find you a job and get up out of there

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