My MIL tries to get my daughter to call her mum

Long story short, I am in my home country for my maternity leave. I am pregnant again and maybe too sensitive but it really makes me sad. So I hired a nanny for my LG as I am pregnant again and nauseous and can’t look properly after her in the afternoons as she also wakes every 2 hours at night and I don’t get proper sleep. So when my MIL comes home my nanny tells to my daughter something like “Look, who is here, granny!”. And my MIL is like “not granny, mummy!”. This made me very angry and I wanted to reply something very rude but I stopped myself. Is this normal? Like, wtf? She brought up her daughter’s son who calls her mummy. But she is not going to bring up my daughter. She is not even helping me with her which is why I have to pay for a nanny. Why on earth she thinks my daughter should call her mummy. I stopped myself this time but I am not sure I will be able to do it if this happens again, and we will end up in a huge argument. We brought the baby here so both set of parents can enjoy her while I am on maternity leave but I am starting to regret it.

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Thats super weird! Can your husband talk to her?

i just told it to my husband and he thinks it is funny and says oh come don’t pay attention to these stupid things. We are going to leave soon anyway, she will only call you mummy

Yeah, that’s weird!
Maybe she has issue with ‘granny’ ?
Maybe ask her to think of another name that she’d like to be called.

Just tell her out right. If she kicks off blame your pregnancy hormone on "how you said it but not the meaning behind it" 🤣.
Granny, gran, grandma, nanny, nanna, but not mummy. Your little one has one of those.
I would just explode and deal with the consequences.
Definitely not the right way to deal with it but it is my way

yeah, i thinks so. She tries to look younger than she is but it is not my problem. I will suggest baby calls her just by her name then 😒

Oh absolutely not. If my mother or mother in law did this they'd get a spade to the face not just a telling off!! I'd be furious! X

i was about to explode and not sure won’t do it next time she does it. I told my husband either he talks to her next time she says it or I will explode and he will have to deal with the consequences his whole life 😡

both her grandsons from her daughter call her mummy and their own mother they call just by her name🤦🏻‍♀️ and she thinks she can teach my daughter the same. Hell no!!!

Doesn't matter what they call her, they arent your kids. If you don't want your kid calling her that then you are well within your rights as a mother to tell her that you don't like it x

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

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Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

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AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.