I need some opinions

Trust the girl. Like what does she have to gain from the situation by lying to you? If she wanted your man, it sounds like she would be able to make that work without needing to try and break you guys up.

what I’m saying is, she contradicted herself. She told me that he told her we were married, but the last text she sent him she asked “you’re married?” I’m not saying it makes him any more right, but how can I ask her for all the info if she’s not being truthful either?

It sounds to me like your husband intentionally deleted text messages to manipulate the conversation into looking more harmless than it is.

You can always ask her to send you the conversation screenshots from her end.

I tried. All on Snapchat 😢

I would ask the girl if she can send you a copy if the convo on her end then go from there

How did your husband show you anything if it was in Snapchat then?
I know sometimes it still shows some of the conversation but it still sounds like he’s not being honest. I really don’t see what this girl would have to gain from lying to you.

it was over text and Snapchat. She said that he had asked her for boob pics and what her turn ons were and she said they mostly communicated over snap. But when they did text it wasn’t anything tooo crazy. But she’s saying all this other stuff they talked about was on snap. I had my husband show me snap and everything was gone so I’m guessing they were sending pictures back and forth and all the “evidence” went away after 24 hours.

Tell her to send everything

And why would he be talking to another girl anyways like that

It’s all just so overwhelming to me because I’m 5 months postpartum. I think I have PP OCD, anxiety and depression. So things have been off between us so I feel so guilty that it led to this. The way he was talking about me to her is so disheartening because I literally just had his baby, and I feel so worthless.

Please do not allow him to make you feel guilty or like this is your fault for one minute. This is no way because of you, these are the actions of an immature boy who doesn’t fully love himself which is why he craves female attention and is incapable of loving you the way you deserve to be.
You are a queen and have been through so much, have sacrificed so much for him. You deserve the world and so much more than this bullshit.

thank you ♥️

I would trust the girl. Your husband probably deleted all the messages to make it look like he is the victim

my husband has also turned to his ex telling her about our issues. Asked to meet up with her. Told her he missed her.

Your husband's being a sneaky sneak

Whys he even using Snapchat, it's a playground for secretive communication

Ask her to send you screen shots