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My Mother In Law Said What?!

Inlaws influence on husband has reached breaking point

So I've posted on here before. I might just dot point the history.
*inlaws are overbearing, over opinionated, baby doesn't warm to them but does to everyone else
*husband has a sister with a baby same age who everyone constantly compares them both
*if his sister does something with baby husband wants to copy with ours, there's been a lot of pressure to do BLW before I was comfortable or ready, husband trying to give baby fries because his sister did

So my husband has come home from being away with his family. I havent seen him for a week. He's spoken to me condescendingly (I did something silly and thought our chest of drawers was breaking and about to collapse but it apparently was just the weight of all the drawers being opened that tipped it). He was very nasty and said I need to go to a doctor because a normal person could figure it out and he swore at me to close the fucking drawers. Fast forward to me giving our girl dinner. She's 9 months old. I was telling him how she sounded like she was going to choke last night and it scared me. He then proceeded to tell me she needs to eat harder foods now. Because his sisters baby is. He's eating raw carrot apparently. I said it wasn't safe but he wouldn't have a bar of it. Then he said I need to stop contact napping because his family are all childcare workers and they say I need to keep putting her down in her cot and making her nap in there (I tried this for months and it didn't work and I now love our contact naps) because she won't ever cope when I go back to work or if she ever goes to daycare. Then he said that he never gets to make any parenting decisions and the only example he could come up with was our baby sleeping in the cot (which she does do at night btw). Meanwhile this whole time I'd started to cry and our baby was crying reaching to be held by me. He wouldn't give her to me. I've reached breaking point with this man. He listens to what his family say and all he ever does is accuse me. I'm being the best mum I can be. Our baby is happy and healthy. I want to leave but I've got nowhere other than places I can stay for a short time and I don't want to only see my baby half the time. I'm heartbroken.