Baby Daddy wants to be in delivery room

I feel the same way..mine on the other hand has never even went to 1 appointment..but so press to hold my son when he’s here..do what’s best for you !! Mine will not be allowed in the room 😂😂 and I’m standing on that !!!

If you don’t feel comfortable with him being in the room then that is totally okay. Labour is deeply personal and you will be so vulnerable and if there is someone in the room that makes you uncomfortable then they shouldn’t be there.

Doesn’t mean he can’t be in the hospital and see her as soon as she’s born. You are not an asshole for setting that boundary.

No, you don’t have to let him be present during your labor. It’s a very sensitive time and a lot of medical things are happening. If you’re more comfortable waiting until you and baby are set in room then do that. You definitely want your labor team to all be supportive and not cause you more stress. If you would consider having him there and think he could be supportive and respectful, maybe call the hospital and talk to the charge nurse about it and how they support you if you change your mind and prefer he wait outside.

You’re not an asshole for saying no… I mean you’re in a vulnerable state so you will want to feel comfortable and at peace…

At the same time, it might be the most amazing experience for him to get to see you bring the little one you both made into the world. I don’t think many men actually want to be there, so it’s nice to hear that he wants to but maybe he should’ve made you feel supported if he wants to be there.

At the end of the day, it’s your decision but if you think it will only make you stressed and make the experience worse for you… don’t do it, it’s already hard enough. Maybe he could wait outside and once you’re all settled he could be there :)

Part of me be like you can be there to see how hard this labour/pain and birth is. lol I feel like they don't understand unless they are there.

On a serious note though its way too personal, and you are not going to be yourself, and the worst thing you can do is put yourself in an uncomfortable or stressful situation. You'll want someone there who you are close to and understands you and can help you get through it. I'd personally say to him he can wait in the hospital and you'll let him know when you're ready for him to come in or call him when she's born as labour can be long and unpredictable x

Think of what's best for you' if he isn't going to be their to support you he can wait in the waiting room till baby has been born. Do not allow yourself to feel strained to accommodate his needs. This moment is very personal and it's your privacy n pain. Only u can decide if he's worth showing tht part of you

I appreciate all the comments from you ladies. It does make me feel better. He has one other daughter and I’ve seen how he treats her, he is a great dad and unfortunately couldn’t be apart of her life for the first 3 months due to his ex and him having problems. But he has full custody of her now, since she is an alcoholic and has some work to do on herself. He hasn’t gone to a single appointment with me and he flakes out a lot. So I don’t want to say yes he can be there and then be disappointed when he doesn’t show up. But our relationship has also been rocky and he has done/said things that have hurt me in the past so I’m not sure I can get over that. I’m due in 8 weeks. We’ve been so back and forth that I don’t think I want to trust him again. I will let him know about waiting until she’s born to see her at the hospital.

So he wants to leave you alone and not support you during your pregnancy but he wants to benefit from being in the delivery room? I’d tell him to roll off.

I hope he understands and doesn’t cause you any problems :) And I hope you have a easy straightforward birth, congratulations ❤️

There's always two sides to a story. lol l He's got 8 weeks to prove himself worth of being dependable, Nothing worst then a let down. if i were you i'd Inform him he can be in the room if he's there to support you through labour from beginning to end or you can let The nurses call him in right after she's born, and you are cleaned up. The decision he makes to be there for you or just feels the need to be their for his child's birth will speak volumes for his intent and paint a brief picture of wht you can expect from him in the future. Hoping he's smart enough to make the right decision and care for his family as a whole 🫶🏾lol

I’m in a similar but different situation. My baby’s dad has been supportive throughout the pregnancy but has done some messed up stuff throughout it as well so it’s a 50/50 on how he’s treated me. We broke up a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant back in August. I’m 3 weeks away from my induction and he wants to be in the room for the birth but I’ve made it very clear that only my mother will be there. He can wait outside once it’s all done because I’m not comfortable with him being beside me during such a vulnerable time. He didn’t understand at first but at the end of the day, these men have no say. You make it clear to him and to your nurses that are taking care of you what you want, they’ll make sure he stays out during the birth.

But if he isn’t in there, who are you going to scream and cuss at? I look at it as a way to have a good excuse to vent your frustrations at him 🤭let him hold your hand and squeeze the crap out of it.

I would invite him to see her in the hospital AFTER she is born but not during labor. He hasn’t earned any right to see you in that state. Hell no.

haha I did this to my husband, I think his hand had more tears than I did 😂😂

@Brodie I agree 👍

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. This is your experience, you’re the one going through something majestic but also absolutely wild ! Have a think about it.