When do you just protect your peace?

So, I’ve been with my partner for 3.5 years now & this first year with baby has been a little rough. We’ve navigated a lot of ups and downs, but one thing that just sets me off for some reason is his shitty mood sometimes.

Like once a month, he has a day or two where everything I do seems to annoy him. He’s on edge, nothing seems to be good enough for him, & he shows very little affection unless I initiate. His mood changes when he interacts with our daughter and other people (to at least being pleasant), but he’s super short with me the entire time.

I normally just ignore it and go about my way, but I’m getting a short fuse with it. I just asked him if he was upset with me & he just said, “no, I’m just in a pissy mood.” That’s it. No apology for taking his stress out on me, nothing.

For additional context, I have been stressed about a work project this week that I was able to do today (& it went extremely well!), being away overnight for 2 nights from my baby for the first time for work next week, & my grandfather just passed away on Wednesday. We are travelling out of state in a few weeks for the funeral and the arrangements seemed to stress him out. I was clear in that he was not obligated to go if he was going to be stressed financially as he had to take PTO for it as he’s not technically related.

I think if this was a new behavior, I’d be okay with it. But, it’s a habit that has weighed on me for a while. I know we won’t always be in a copacetic place 100% of the time, but I don’t deserve to have an inconspicuous shitty mood taken out on me.

Am I being too sensitive? Or have I just had enough?

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Am i the only one?

Hi Mums, this is the first time i will be openly speaking about this because ive been trying to push it back or hide it but i need to know if this is normal?

My baby boy is almost 7 months ols. We had a really difficult time in NICU for a week when he was born and i was also in the hospitalbed. I feel like since im home i havent been able to to complety chill the fuck out. I am always on alert, i feel like i cant rest. I have no friends or family here. My baby is exclusively breastfed and will not drink outside of his bedroom so when we go outside i always have to rush to get back home when he cries. The furthest ive been is 10 mins from home. Havent sat down at a cafe or restaurant. Just shops like sainsbury and b&m. I feel like my everyday is the same routine. Wake up play with him have a walk for a bit go shops and come home put him to bed, clean and sleep. I dont have time to make myself look nice. When will my life be normal? Im so scared this is my life now. I have no one to talk about this. I cant imagine going to the city centre with him it will be madness. Please, does anyone else have a similar situation? HELP. xx a really tired exhausted mum.

I peaked 😔

I got really angry at my 4 year old, threw the tooth brush and stormed out of the room. He went to bed crying and I didn’t go to him.

He came out of his room crying at one point and begged me to come back, but I sat him on my lap, hugged him and explained I’m too angry to go back into the room to put him to sleep. He begged me crying again over and over, and I just kept saying I loved him, we’re still best friends, but I can’t come back in. He then kicked me, so I shut the door and let him cry himself to sleep.

I know this horrible and I feel like the worst person. I know I’m going to wake up tomorrow with the worst feelings and guilt, but right now, I’m so fucking fed up of this life. Everything is a battle, there is never a time we can just do the thing and today it peaked for me.

Just ranting

Leaving son's father

My son is 8 months old and his dad choked me out, then picked me up and dropped me on the ground this morning.. I am so shocked and upset.. it started as an argument and insults.. he pushed me, I hit him he dropped me to the floor and that's when what I stated above happened. All of my family is 22hrs away, I only work once a week, he doesn't give me any money. He is also financially abusive, works literally all the time yet always tells me there is no money.(wouldn't even buy me tampons) I get no help, respect, acknowledgement for all I do in our home and for our son. I was willing to stick with him through everything until this morning. That is my line.. idk what to do. he has always wanted to be a dad and I dont want to take that from him but I just can't do this.. any advice helps a lot.. ty🙃

Weaning

So I thought at 6 months it was just about taste etc so I’ve been doing Ella’s kitchen pouches & he tried avocado.
He is happy to be spoon fed & loves attempting to throw the bowl across the room.

I didn’t realise I should be on my way to breakfast lunch & dinner….

Any advice?? I feel like I’m letting my baby down and putting him behind

Thoughts

How do you feel about your other half/husband/childs father being drunk around 4 year old in the afternoon? Like literally falling asleep beside him on the couch

Fed up with husband

I’m laid here typing this and I’m not sure if I’m more fuming or upset. We have a new baby who is 3 months old and an older child. It’s Easter Sunday and in a few hours the kids will be waking up. My husband thought it would be a great idea to arrange a meal out with his family and get absolutely shit faced. We eventually got home around half past midnight. I then had to put the kids to bed and sort out the egg hunt, all the Easter hunny stuff and blow up the balloons etc, bunny feet trail etc all alone. He went to bed and threw up all over the bathroom. I’ve just spent 20 minutes stripping the bed after he’s thrown up again in bed and then out the pissing window! It all down the side of the house, all over the outdoor window sill and down the kitchen window, window sill and outdoor sofa! I’m literally SEETHING!!!!!!!!! We’ve got people coming round at 10am and a roast dinner to cook.
Not sure why I’m posting. I think I just needed to vent. He’s been so pissing selfish!!!!!!