Fed up with husband

I’m laid here typing this and I’m not sure if I’m more fuming or upset. We have a new baby who is 3 months old and an older child. It’s Easter Sunday and in a few hours the kids will be waking up. My husband thought it would be a great idea to arrange a meal out with his family and get absolutely shit faced. We eventually got home around half past midnight. I then had to put the kids to bed and sort out the egg hunt, all the Easter hunny stuff and blow up the balloons etc, bunny feet trail etc all alone. He went to bed and threw up all over the bathroom. I’ve just spent 20 minutes stripping the bed after he’s thrown up again in bed and then out the pissing window! It all down the side of the house, all over the outdoor window sill and down the kitchen window, window sill and outdoor sofa! I’m literally SEETHING!!!!!!!!! We’ve got people coming round at 10am and a roast dinner to cook.
Not sure why I’m posting. I think I just needed to vent. He’s been so pissing selfish!!!!!!

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Girl I would be LIVID. I'd wake him up before the kids and make him scrub the side of the house.... im so sorry you're dealing with this 😞

I will be the devil on your shoulder and say do it! I'd be crying too girl. Just make it as happy a morning as you can for the kids and work him like dog. That'd be my logic. I get you probably have to do the cooking etc, but make him clean everything from the night before up, plus from Easter morning and more, and I'd even give him random things that he's put off 😅 but I may be quite petty if I were in your situation, so don't 100% listen to me 😂

I’d wake him before the kids wake up and tell him to clean it it can’t all be left to you

I would leave it be. He can clean after his self….. only thing i may consider cleaning is the public bathroom. And tbh if this was an ongoing thing… i wouldnt even bother cleaning it. They have to deal with with the consequences

I feel you! I would be absolutely seething!!!!, my husband did something very similar about a year ago. (He threw up in my son's playroom 🫪😱) I work in a school and I ended up telling him off like he was one of my students.

Telling him you're a grown arse man, this is college student behaviour, get it together etc.

It really hit home and luckily we've not had a repeated incident 😅

Wat the hell is all I can say then he pick Easter weekend to get shit faced call it bad timing hopefully he will wake up nd apologize for his actions and help get the house ready for the kids and family coming over nd get the kids ready as well just let him sleep it off good luck hunny ❤️

um i would honestly give him 45 mins to sleep it off & wake his ass up to clean the whole outside, replace the couch outside & make him clean the bathroom & wash the sheets.. even the mattress if vomit went through. like that’s so inconsiderate and selfish omgg im sorry you have to deal.. hearing this just made me mad omg.. then having a 3 month old in the house.. why .. it’s germs like come on whose gonna be that reckless with A BABY UNDER ONE IN THE HOUSE ?! he needs to get it together fr

Wow what a selfish a**hole! He deserves whatever he has coming from you honestly

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Resentment for husband

Hi please can someone relate or give me a word of advice? I am a mom of 3 under 3 and live in the UK since 5 years so I don't have many friends yet like my husband who grew up here and has his family here too. It might be a little exaggerated but I feel like so often he has someone to invite him to go to the pub at night (men evening), to stay out til 2 AM dancing (with his mates in a men only event) and just now today he is out with his sister all day cause she took him to Thorpe Park for his birthday (delayed) and they're having a blast. Besides that he goes to the stags of his friends and to their weddings too. Because we have 3 little ones it's very hard or impossible to leave them with a babysitter in order for me and my husband to go out together for the day and his mum takes them every now and then but it wouldn't be enough time for us to travel as long as he can if I am with the kids. As well, even though he said that he is more than happy to stay with the kids so I can go out and have fun with my friends it's not possible because here the problem is that all my friends are basically my husband's friends' wives who also all have children but they are not fans of adult fun such as going out, doing something active or crazy, they only ever really meet up together with their little ones and are happy with being a mom 24/7 whereas I feel grief for the youthful spirit inside me. I am only 23 and don't feel settled at all. Inside I feel like I want to dance all night through, I want to drink, to chat about hilarious things and laugh, to go on rides with my friends or even husband and feel so stuck and sad.

It's not my husband's fault but literally every time he is out like Today the day starts by me being happy for him from my heart and by the end of it feeling lots of resentment and cold towards him because I feel reminded of something that only he can have...

Am I in the wrong

Me my partner and 2 kids (aged 1 and 4) have gone out for the day, the kids were getting grumpy as there hungry. I said we need to get food and he was just walking around in circles not getting food. So we get to a Tesco and I said I’m grabbing the kids a meal deal each and again he’s just walking around Tesco not a care in the world so he said he wanted cereal bars we find them I said what ones and he had a go at me and storms out the shop and then we get into the car and he starts shouting at me saying I’m the reason he’s not home much.

But all I’ve been saying is the kids need to eat as there hungry.

Please help... are my feelings wrong?

I'll make this short, my fiancee does nightshift I don't ask much from my him im always the one taking care of our son, cleaning, making food, ect. So he has nothing to worry about when hes off my frustration is today I needed to go to town and he got up earlier then normal 3:00 and he said he would be awake because he cant go back to sleep, so I asked if he could take me to town because I had errands to run and I really needed to do them because I would have absolutely no time the rest of the week. And he started complaining he didn't want to go anywhere because he wanted rest and basically a day off... and so yes apart of me kinda got a bit upset because damn... I would love a day off actually, no responsibilities from our child from cleaning cooking ect running errands, but why is it he gets a day off? Why does he get absolutely no responsibilities besides staying in his room playing video games and relaxing, I haven't gotten that kinda rest since our sons been born my relax time is at night when he goes to bed.. but even then I have to do dishes ect reset. Then when I brought it up to him he just shut down the conversation and I wasn't being hostile I was just genuinely asking like I also work a full time job like he does and I get home and do stuff, why is it I ask one thing which is to be taken to town and it becomes a whole issue....

5 months old entertain/games/toys

Help! I don’t know what the best toys/games etc to play with my baby. She seems to get bored really quickly!

Wish I had someone to talk to and hit the library with🥲

That’s it. That’s the post. Very much feeling sorry for myself😂 blame the rain

Motherhood has made my life miserable. Will it ever change?

My baby is 8 months old, has not slept through the night once yet with multiple wake ups. Contact naps during the day. I’m EBF the baby. I get no time to myself. I have a partner who does the bare minimum most of the time. I’m so tired mentally and physically. I don’t want to do this anymore. I regret becoming a mom. My relationship with my partner will never be the same. As now I have so much resentment towards him that will never go away. I ruined my life.