My husband won't touch me

I'm 23 and 38 weeks pregnant with my first, and since I've started showing, my husband hasn't been physically intimate. I've tried talking to him about it, but he just blows it off. Is this normal, or is this something i should be worried about?

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Normal 🙈🙈

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Ugh.my husband was like this last time. Happy for a hand job or a BJ though 🙄

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It is normal. When I was pregnant and started getting bigger, the same thing happened. I was eventually told that it was just awkward, and they felt that they were gonna hurt the baby. He actually told me he could feel the head while doing it at 35 weeks 😅

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Guys often find it really weird so I guess now you’re showing it might be having more of an effect on how he feels. Very normal but often very frustrating xx

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Lots of sex is supposed to help during pregnancy, so when you give birth its faster or easier

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This is normal. My husband was honest and said it freaked him out so I respected that.

Once I got the clear to have sex again aftet baby he was back to being intimate.

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I never experienced it but my friends husband didn’t touch her for the whole pregnancy. He said he didn’t want to chance it and he was afraid to hurt the baby. He didn’t change his mind until she had the doctor tell him he couldn’t hurt the baby.

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Id feel some type away because wen I get pregnant that don't happen but I'd feel like there was somebody else or he isn't attracted anymore but that's just me tho

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I'm 29 weeks pregnant and we've only had sex once since I got pregnant, it caused me to bleed and I ended up in triage overnight worrying something was wrong with baby at 21 weeks, but it was just cervix trauma (only cause of the extra blood flow and sensitivity)😬😂 so think that put him off even more.. we haven't been intimidate whatsoever since🙈. We know it doesn't hurt baby but the bleed sort of freaked us out haha

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the first time that happened i went to the ER, but there was nothing to worry about. Usually only if you keep bleeding then there's a problem. But after that it didn't stop me, we did it as much as we could. And from when my water broke to when I had my baby was 9 hours all natural XD

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My husband always wanted it when I was pregnant with our daughter. The man I was seeing when I was pregnant (didn’t know I was till I was 3.5 months pregnant) with my son… we had sex all the time. As much as I hear that it’s normal… I’d tell him you both need to sit down be open minded and listen and not brush it off… or have your doctor reassure him he won’t hurt the baby

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I am 28 weeks pregnant, and my husband wants sex almost every night. I feel like you guys need to sit down and really talk about it.

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Yeah my bd said he touched something (impossible) and stopped having sex with me after lmaoo

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Everyone saying this is normal but my man loves having sex with me and doesn’t mind my pregnant belly 😭😭

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it is actually normal for men to feel like this.

I think we are lucky and have men that like to still lol even the man I was with when I was pregnant with my son and it wasn’t his kid lol.

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My fiancé wouldn’t touch me toward the end of my pregnancy. I’d say we stopped being intimate right at the beginning of my third trimester and when I asked him he said he was just scared he would hurt me or the baby. (At this point it was a bit in comfortable in a few positions and he took that as hurting me). It’s entirely possible he’s having the same thoughts. Maybe try to express to him that this is something that is bothering you and you’d like to have a discussion and not be blown off.

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Normal. My man kept asking me if the baby was moving, the moment I said she is sleeping he wanted it lol 😂 he admitted after that he was scared to feel her and didn’t want to hurt her. It is so uncomfortable now and awkward, I feel huge and everything hurts lol 😆

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You should definitely try to talk to him more about it. Tell him how it makes you feel. If he's scared it will hurt the baby than have your doctor explain to him that it's safe.

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@Lindsay i didn't realize it was so normal for men to not want to. Mine was happy anytime.

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🤣🤣🤣. My husband did it till the last day of pregnancy.

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My partner and I was intimate my whole pregnancy but that’s bc we have a high sex drive

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I'm 7 months pp and I haven't had sex since I was 6 weeks pregnant it's been horrible x

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