Anxiety and panic

Hi, I'm a first time Mom and I've been struggling with anxiety this whole seven weeks (my son is 7 weeks old). I had a anxiety attack or panic attack 4 days after he was born where the derealization hitted very hard and I'm I'm scared from that day. I'm going to therapy and I'm getting better but I'm all the time asking myself am I getting better for real or something's going to happen am I going to have another panic attack anytime soon and it's very hard to deal with it. I struggled with anxiety in the past and I got better but now I feel like I have another responsibility and I'm so scared it won't get better. I hope this won't last forever, I know it's good to be exposed to those situations that makes you anxious, that's what I did in the past, but I'm so sad because I feel I'm not enjoying my time with the baby as much as a should and I feel.very guilty, I know it's not my fault but I cant help it. Is someone in the same situation? (English is not my first language, sorry if I made some mistake)

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It’s okay! When I first had my son I had really bad postpartum anxiety as a first time mom. It will get better. It’s definitely overwhelming being a first time mom and figuring everything out. Try to do things in little increments. Take a walk outside with baby for 5-10 minutes. I found sunshine really helped with my anxiety. But it definitely gets better mama! Hopefully this helped !

:-( I used to have panic attacks - I do but this current experience is keeping me calm. I found that the thoughts of motherhood and birth that got me through were:

- This is natural
- Girl that have far less sense than me can do this and do
- I’m logical so I just apply logic to any situations
- there are loads of things I don’t know
- there are loads of resources like YouTube, mums groups, women around me, books
- my baby doesn’t need a lot
- I must cut out all other responsibilities and just focus on having fun with my baby
- take all things out of my schedule so I can just relax going around with my baby.
- going around with my baby will pose challenges
- with every challenge I will try to solve it but it won’t be perfectly solved first time
- I will improve incrementally each time I try to solve the same problems
- nothing really matters as long as my baby is happy
- take time
- my baby doesn’t need a schedule or anything. Just flow and respond to their needs

- It will take time to read my baby
- we’ve just met so we’re getting to know each other.
- this time is beautiful and no one else matters but me and baby

Everything is instinctual, it flows and I don’t need to think - just go with facilitating my baby’s wants

I might have a panic attack, that’s fine. I will take time to breathe it out. Just make sure baby is safe in cot and experience my panic attack. My baby needs to see a range of emotions so I just need to focus on experiencing my attack and let it go through the process then unpack my attack later. Allow this to flow also - I won’t fight anything Inc panic attacks. Just read my body and slow down and head to the crib when I feel stressed

Going through if with you. Im choosing to believe my tribe that it does end!

Thank you for your answers! My therapist told me if was probably an adjustment disorder, it can happen when you face stressing situations (like having a baby). But it is so hard when you really want to be ok and you feel the symptoms again. I will try to stay positive ♥️

Praying for you 🙏 ❤️ God helped me get through my first born. And I hope he will help you too. Please recite the Lords Prayer anytime anxiety starts to bubble. Take deep breaths in, hold for a second, then breath out very slowly like through a straw

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔