I'm not sexually attracted to my husband no more😭

I think it's due too stress or so much work load on me but I don't feel like I want him no more, I take care of two small kids(7 month old and a almost 23 month old) he's barely home since he works so much (m-f 7-7 and on weekends friday 7:30 to midnight and sat-sun 3-4 to midnight ) the only time I do get to see him is when I'm putting the kids to bed and I'm getting ready to bed my self or when it's super early in the morning and on the weekends he either busy trying to do something (mostly either playing games or doing something for someone like helping them) I don't get me time (Velcro baby) no hobbies like I used too, to me i feel like hes not even a partner at all, the only time he does help is when hes trying to put the kids to bed or have them take a nap with himšŸ™„ we have no alone time together at all, i also miss having my hobbies but i can't seem to find the time unless i stay up so late to enjoy it but i would be super tired the next day, i also ebf so i dont have a lot of energy like i used toošŸ˜®ā€šŸ’Ø
Will this roommate phase will end or is this just doomed?

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Sounds like you both are pretty burnt out. Right now your babies are young. When they become more autonomous, you’ll have more time. The attraction will come back, have a talk with your husband and try to find a compromise. It gets better

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Our roommate phases are just that, phases. It's easy to get exhausted on both ends. So I definitely get it.

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I’m in the same boat the hormones and lack of sleep ruined our relationship at this time. We just come and go. I’m hoping it gets better but right now all I want when I have time is to sleep 😓

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