Am i being dramatic ?

So to start with i know that i suffer from Depression/PPD. Just a little backstory my husband and i have been married for over two years. Majority of our marriage we have had issues. Last June we got evicted from our home. He went to reside with his family as i was with mine. Obviously the distance caused issues and we ended up separating. He was gone from June 2023 to October 2023. He was home for a month, meaning he left November 10, 2023 and has since went back to the same state as family to make money.. now he has been gone the entire time. Meaning he missed our sons first bday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, OUR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY OF 2024 . He did however come back March 2023 for a week then left again ! Now I informed him my birthday is coming (NEXT WEEK) that all i wanted was for him to be home as hes missed alot, my depression has gotten to me to where I’ve lost alot of weight dealing with children Alone, trying to work with no support system.. it seems as if he will NOT be here for my bday. I informed him at this point the job isn’t worth the marriage as yes bills are paid we are fine, but my mental has declined rapidly. I don’t even want to work at this point.. on top of the youngest child having severe health issues. Idk i just needed to vent. One sad tired mama with nobody to turn to . I feel bad always being over stimulated i write this with tears rolling down my face.

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You're not being dramatic, ppd is not an easy thing to go through. Even I that have had help still have my off days where I'm overwhelmed. He should have been there to help since it's something hard to go through. I struggled and only have 1 baby. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me.

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. I wonder how he’d respond if he heard you were struggling like this? I imagine there’s still love and care there in your relationship even though you’re separated. It could be worth a heart to heart.

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plot twist i have told him that. He tends to be understanding but has also said that i need to stop complaining. I’m like i am 1 person dealing with 4 kiddos . Three of them are under the age of 5.

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I thank you for your kind words. I just wish that someone would hear me.. I’ve reached out to a therapist. I’m like I’ve lost so much weight. I struggle with eating.. I’m sad. Like not hurt myself or my kids sad, but just no motivation. My house can sometimes get cluttered. I just pray for better days..

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Damn that’s awful. You’re right, it sounds like the marriage isn’t worth it 😕 do you have family around to help you? Friends for emotional support?

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I honestly have no one.. I’ve told my parents that I’m sad they’ve seen me in person and can see the dramatic weight loss..the few friends i do have. I asked them to leave me alone. That’s only because I’ve told them for months. I’ve been sad.. It’s gotten to the point to literally them to hang out.. begging to text. I told them I would give them gas money.. make plans and get lagged on well over a year.. don’t get me wrong everyone’s busy but there’s a difference of only wanting to be a friend when you want someone to vent to, but not physically being there.

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Ugh that is such a hard, lonely place. I’ve been somewhere similar before and it was one of the hardest periods of my life. I hope this is temporary for you and gets better soon. Take care of yourself mama 💞

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That's how I felt. I'd never hurt myself or my baby, but there's been days where I'm super emotional and cry easily. Even days where I just want to stay in the room all dark from how I feel. I don't have my parents to go to since my grandparents raised me. They're stuck in their old ways so I couldn't count on them for advice either. I didn't have anyone to vent to either, which is why I joined peanut.

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