Feeling like a bad mum

Still a Mum feeding to sleep every wake up over here too🙋‍♀️ there is no other time in life that we wouldn't use the easiest, most effective way to do something, so why when it comes to getting our child back to sleep, does this change??? Why not use the very thing that sends them back to sleep? Breastfeeding is a gift!

They will of course eventually sleep without needing. Babies do not need to learn by crying - this is a very outdated viewpoint. You're doing great!

My little girl is EBF and it is absolutely exhausting when they always want you! She has been an awful sleeper up until the last week, I did sleep train and stop feeding to sleep months ago but she was still unsettled on a night so didnt fix the problem. She still doesn't sleep through the night but is only up once/twice for a feed and straight back to bed now, which is a miracle compared to two weeks ago 😂 just suddenly seemed to click for her!

Sleep regression! This one nearly killed me! Then I met the 18m one face to face and now this is the worst 🤣 my 18m still feeds to sleep and feeds very often! Xx

You're not a bad mum at all you're an amazing mum that your baby has such a strong positive attachment to you.
I found that friends and family like to give advice of what worked for them but it's your baby. Everyone told me to give him a bottle in the night cause it would fill him and he would sleep - tried it made no difference he woke at exactly the same times.
Then I was told out him in his own room he will sleep - he slept better in his next to me in our room.

I did listen to a sleep thing that said try and soothe them in other ways at certain points so say if baby wakes up at 1,3 and 5 maybe the three o clock one try rocking back to sleep may take longer but after a few nights baby will realise it's not hungry and sleep 🤞 I'm not sure how well this would work and in the middle of the night you just do what's easiest don't you 😂 I definitely do.
But they talked about hunger over habit. My little one is all over the place and we've just got back off holiday so even worse 😂

Just do what's best and easiest for you and baby, ignore everyone's 'advice' if it's not for you, they aren't there in the middle of the night 😂😘 xx

Its absolute rubbish what people are saying to you! Probably coming from people that didn't breast feed. EBF here and he can now nap without boob to sleep but we do co sleep and he is attached to me all night. I think if you ask anyone who EBF the boob is more than likely the way they settle their baby.

Don't feel shit about it because what you are doing is amazing! And there is no need "to get used to a bottle" mine don't take a bottle and I'm going back to work in 2 weeks. Its all ivd heard for ages off people... you need to try and get him on the bottle. He won't take a bottle so why keep trying. Breast feeding is such a commitment to your baby! As nice as it is you are allowed to feel fed up or want a break or time away and it definitely doesn't make you a bad mom. Keep going hopefully things will get better! We are feeding all night long pretty much and I feel dead too xx

I was told recently to start giving a bit of water during the night instead of the boob. Not done my research on this advice yet

It is normal for feed to sleep - babies are biologically wired to fall asleep at the breast.

Babies are not "independent" and won't necessarily be so til they're beyond 3: they are children, they are dependents.

What you are doing is laying the foundations for a really securely attached relationship where your baby will eventually have the necessary skills to sleep independently.

You are not a bad mum for doing what is absolutely so naturally normal: you are a great mum.

You are not a bad mum. Breastfeeding your little one is completely natural and is how they are fed and comforted to sleep. Stopping that all of a sudden will be quite distressing for them. You're putting your babies needs above you're own which makes you a great mum.
Do what's best for you and your baby and try to ignore the outside noise.
If it stops working for you then you can look at other options but do it when you're ready not because others say you should.
She's only 8 months old and is not expected to be sleeping through yet and they go through a lot of regressions so it's not linear anyway.