Motivation/fatigue/second pregnancy vent!

I’m feeling so lazy and guilty. The lack of energy really hits me and then when I do get a sudden moment of energy I just mentally can’t bring myself to do anything. The list of stuff to do is overwhelming me and I just freeze. I have a toddler but as it’s a Sunday and my partner is home I’ve just wanted some time to myself to try and get going slowly but both him and my toddler have just been lingering around me in bed all morning. Is it too much to ask to just have some time, when I am on it all week no matter how I feel 😪 but because my partner has stuff he wants to do, he wants me up. I know pregnancy when you have kids is so different but at the same time, whenever there is a moment for me to be alone because my partner is here, I want to use it, just feel like I’m not allowed. Ofc so grateful to be pregnant, but feeling like now I am my partner isn’t ready to face the stuff that comes with it e.g. being default parent for 5 minutes!

7 weeks tomorrow, can’t wait to feel human again soon

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Sorry to hear you’re going through this. I also have a daughter but she is nearly 11 and can do most things for herself. I don’t know how other mums handle younger children and being pregnant. I have slept most of this weekend. I salute you I know it’s hard. Maybe have a chat with your partner and say you feel guilty but at the same time you do need that me time as your really struggling. Honest conversations should help the situ. Xxx all the best xx

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Thank you! I think because I’ve had hardly any symptoms til now, he expects I can do more even though I was clearly struggling this morning. I feel guilty admitting I need the time to rest, especially when I have little one wanting me as well. I’ve spoken to him since and he understands. I just find it so hard mixed in with the guilt of not getting anything done, and not being a fully present mum. Venting definitely helped anyway. All the best to you too! Xx

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