No skin to skin when baby was born 😞

So I gave birth about 8 months ago and I’ve had a birth debrief but forgot to ask them why they didn’t give my baby boy to me when he was born.
They gave him straight to my partner who then passed him to me but then they took him straight off me.
I did hemorrhage and they were stitching me up after my episiotomy…could this have been why?
He was then given to me so I could feed him but I just remember wondering why he wasn’t given to me.

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Its because of your episiotomy

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they let me hold my baby while i was being stitched up and didn't take her off me at all, i had her from just after she'd being weighed up to getting onto the ward and had to stay in the recovery room for quite a while but she was with me the entire time

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I had episiotomy and haemorrhage and had her until I gave to partner but I was already in theatre with spinal so this may have been why

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I would have asked why right then and thier communication can solve a lot of problems

I wouldn't say no skin on skin that's not an accurate description of what happened sense after you were stitched up form your episiotomy they did allow you to do skin to skin and feed your baby

However they should have explained the whole procedure beforehand and while doing each step and make sure you knew and understand what is going on and that you would be able to do skin to skin with baby but they had to stop your hemorrhaging frist because this could of been very dangerous for you mom can't hold baby if her health is compromised

I had my frist baby taken away from me because I had a seizure after he was born this isn't mean doctors and nurses it's them doing thier job once my seizure was over I was allowed to continue skin to skin

I'm sorry this happened to you and you weren't able to do skin to skin right away but at least they got you stitched up and you were still able to do skin to skin

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I’m interested at the above comments about it being because of your episiotomy …. They gave my boy straight to me for skin to skin I had an episiotomy and obviously needed to be stitched as well I doubt this is the reason lovely.
Sorry you had to go through this X

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Just for comparison... I had episiotomy, forceps and second degree tear (lost 900ml blood) and still had immediate skin to skin when he was born for about an hour while they stitched me up etc. I'd had epidural so didn't feel much and wasn't exactly able to move off the bed. X

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Its because of the hemorrhage and episiotomy bit

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I had no skin to skin either, I was in theatre, had a forceps delivery, an episiotomy, 4th degree tear, a haemorrhage, 2 blood transfusions and an iron fusion and issues with my bladder. Although I was completely out of it due to a mix of pure exhaustion and pain relief, gas and air & diamorphine.

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I was handed my son for literally seconds then they took him to be checked over (I believe because the cord was round his neck when he was born). I then had to be stitched up in theatre so couldn't hold him until after that. My husband was with him. I'm hoping to do skin to skin sooner this time

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Also had an episiotomy and had my baby given to me as soon as as she was out aswell as during the episiotomy orocesss , sorry you had to go through this you should of ask why right away xx

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