My sons behaviour is really upsetting me
My son has turned into a monster and I'm not sure where I am going wrong.
Is it me? Where am I going wrong.
He is swearing telling me to shut up talking about womans body parts (which we have never taught him) he is destructive. Pulling stuff out and throwing it, throwing stuff out window, spilling water or juice I have everywhere even threw his cereal on roof. Our drive is attached to garden he has scratched car and cracked window.
I feel all I do is shout his name all day. Its not like we don't spend time with him because we do. I take him to park most days we go on soft play outings and for long walks and I will play games in house woth him and out in garden amd involve him with my daily stuff he loves helping me do housework and has took an interest in helping me cook so I've been teaching him my homemade meals too. I'm so stressed out my partner works long hours from 7am to 5:30pm 6 days sometimes later depending on traffic as he's based all over Central Scotland and Borders. He tries his best when he gets home but even he's struggling with his behaviour we feel he's turned really rude. He called me stupid last week and keeps talking about boobies we have never spoken like thst infront of him and he's woth me or us except for nursery. This is reducing me to tears I feel like I'm failing as a mum and not doing a good job. He has been deferred for school for extra year due to him being too emotional and not ready for school.
I am waiting on a appointment woth occupational health for him. I'm at my wots end.
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How old is your little boy? It might be worth discussing with nursery, is he picking up this behaviour from someone there?
For a moment I thought you were talking about an older boy until you mentioned nursery. Could it be TV, internet? If not, it would be good to raise the concern with the nursery as there is a source for that vocabulary that does not happen at home. Ask which adults and children interact the most with your child, note down their names as it may be useful later for further investigation.
Did the nursery advise the deferral or was it your personal choice?
I’d discuss this behaviour with nursery
Don’t be embarrassed by it you’re doing your best BUT there may be something going on which needs investigating whether that’s additional needs or another child being exposed to things that aren’t appropriate and your child’s picking it up! But nursery are absolutely the right place to go to begin with
I’d even maybe contact your health visitor if they have them where you are or your dr x
Is changing him out of that nursery a possibility? Are you able to keep him at home until you find a new one? I would cut ties immediately if he hasn’t learned that at home then it’s obviously there and that’s completely inappropriate language/behavior. I would talk to them immediately but keep him home if possible.
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