Single mum

You have 1000% every right to be furious with him for everything he did although it’s not his family’s fault that he’s a poor excuse of a man/father so I understand why he said his family can see her

Thankyou!! I never know because I did make the mistake of sleeping with 2 guys in close proximity, but he said he wanted to be involved so I wasn’t sure if I was wrong for thinking he was gonna be involved 😂

I’d just ignore him now if he wants nothing to do with her then don’t waste anymore energy on him. I’d still probably get a dna done though if you are not 100% before involving his family. If his family want to be involved that’s not up to him just because he’s a dead beat doesn’t mean his family have to follow. I’d just make sure if you give them your daughter that there is no contact with the dad xx

You are absolutely not wrong for telling his family to meet your daughter. You are very brave and strong. Life is too short so it is on him. He will realize that one day in the future! How old is your BD if I may ask?

I would DNA the other guy if your bd don’t want to cooperate with you because at the need of the day the baby will be the only one hurt in the end she needs to know who her dad is. Put your baby first I wouldn’t let them meet my until you know for sure she’s is your bd baby just so no one else gets hurt in the process.

He’s a fckng dick. Not ur not wrong at all. Put him in court and ask for child support cause u didn’t make that child alone. Save evidence of everything that u can to acc prove he’s the one that doesn’t want to be in her life

I’m going through the same thing. This is a hard pill to swallow but we can’t expect a man to be there when they initially told you they didn’t want the child in the first place, you made the decision to keep the child of your own back knowing he didn’t want you to so this is now something you have to accept and go through. Yes it’s a dickhead move on his behalf but at the end of the day you knew exactly what it was , it’s normal to feel angry but emotions will always cloud logic and the reality of things. I’m a single mother myself and I just have to deal with it. I’m sorry your going through this honestly and honestly fuck men , we don’t need them , fuck what anyone thinks , you got this on your own and you will find someone that will love you and your child, trust me.

I’d feel infuriated as well!! His wishy washy back in forth sounds super frustrating!! As long as you don’t put his family against him (even if he’s an ass) I think it’s totally fine if they want to be involved. It might actually be really nice to have the extra support and love.

Get a dna before involving his family , and get him on child support and never beg him to be there for your child but never deny access ! No matter how much you hate him never deny the access of him seeing your child if he wishes to , but in terms of child maintenance get that asap he doesn’t have to physically be there. Fuck him