Absolutely no sex drive whatsoever

When I was pregnant I had no desire to have sex at all and I honestly thought that well maybe a little while after I have baby it will come back… 8 and a half months later and me and my partner have had sex once. He’s super understanding which I’m very grateful for, the thing is, I want to have an intimate relationship again I just don’t have any desire to actually do it. I don’t know how to get myself back in the swing of things and actually want sex not to feel like a chore I have to do. Any ladies had the same or just have some advice in general please let me know :)
If someone could also tell me how to reply to comments as incognito as well it would be greatly appreciated 🤣

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I’m in the same boat as you, so I don’t have any advice I’m afraid. But… if you comment back to any comments on this post (or like any comments) it should automatically be done as an incognito comment as your main post itself already is. I hope that makes sense! ☺️ x

I’ve been taking something called uro I blame TikTok but it’s only been three days I’ve been wanted to have sex non stop 🫠 and its a bit irritating I kinda wanna stop the pills now

just generally, yeah I’ve spoken to him about it just so he doesn’t think that I’ve gone off him mainly! We are having a bit of a stressful time financially and just generally. I think a night away from little one might be good. I think I definitely agree as well the more time passes the more stressed I get about it too, thank you! X

thank you so much, I’ve asked before and nobody told me so I felt so bad not replying! well hopefully you can get some advice from this too, why does everything have to be so complicated 😩 x

ooh ok, might have to look into that then, even if I do just test it out for a couple of days 🤣 x

I will say it works differently for everyone but I keep hearing that it works in just about a week of using it or within a few days

I guess your adrenals are still tired/weak.(After giving birth) Support yourself. Stay healthy 💚 🌿 😌
Love your's ❤️ for everything is time.
Your hormones also still crazy. So just try to relax. And like you say. Get some me time and date night (if possible)
There is so much going on ofcorse sex it's not the first thing in your head.
Do you feel safe? ❤️
Loved? 😍
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I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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