Are there any mums and mums-to-be looking for friends? How do you go about it?
I'm feeling a bit deflated in making friendships with other mums. I've recently moved into a new area and expecting my first baby any day now! 🥳🥰
(I'm sorry this is a long post and a bit of a vent)Â
I've tried local pregnancy/mum groups but found I'm either the odd one out or the only one attending alone so it can be difficult to break into existing friendship groups.Â
I've just started mat leave (normally work full time Mon-Fri). I want to maximise my time off with meet ups/activities but even when working I'm always up for keeping my schedule available for meet ups (I just need to pre-plan rather than spontaneous meets, with more flexibility at evenings and weekends).
I have a partner, he is lovely and also up for meet ups as couples and Dad friends!
I am all for having spaces to vent - believe me we all need it at times 😂 - but I don't like being dragged into dramas or feeling wrong/guilty for having a man in my life.Â
I own our house - this was an issue with one group I met up with, simply because I was the only one that couldn't participate in a conversation about council housing or benefits and simply staying silent until the next topic wasn't the right response either 🙈
I'm not personally religious but, based on past friendships, very much feel we can respect and be curious about each others' lives!Â
Family say I'm trying too hard and my people will find me when they're supposed to, but its been 10 years of surface level or one-sided friendships.
It just doesn't feel like I should be accepting a life without other company but also don't want to continue losing faith and trust in others 😔
The one time I thought I was meeting up with another working mum recently, turned out to be her pitch to bring me into a MLM/pyramid scheme. (Do whatever works for you but the entire situation felt disingenuous after that when I just wanted a friend to hang out with).
I've found the FB groups and forums bring out a lot of judgement/negativity (I'm aware there is potentially irony in this post).
I'm really hoping to find some people who are doing their best, looking to support and be supported and keen to work around our busy and varied lifestyles to make a friendship!
Its difficult to express some of these things without sounding negative or judgemental, I do genuinely believe everyone should live life how best works for them, I just think there must be some other people that are a bit more like me somewhere?
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I'd go to the park or mommy and me classes to meet other moms.
Also, you're incognito. How do you propose to be seen and connect while hiding? No judgment, just curious.
hey! ☺ do you think it may be gets easier once baby is here to build interactions and connections?
As for being incognito, from other interactions and posts on here I've witnessed, it's impossible to know what backlash could be received. Especially when some of what I've experienced already on the app, FB groups and in person hasn't always been pleasant.
It meant if it did trigger off anything, I'd shut the post down and forget about it. If it remained focused on how people are forming friendships and connections then hopefully it provides some support for everyone and we can reach out to each other to connect 🥰
Hey, whereabouts do you live?
It might be easier, yes, just keep putting yourself out there, and a natural good connection will come. I think classes will help since most of the other people will be coming solo.
Talk to the instructors too they might know of other classes or coffee shops locally you can meet other moms
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