Recovery

I had a planned cesearean 15 days ago and I'm finding myself having so many questions but I'm so wary of bugging the GP. Most of my concerns are completely hypothetical so I feel like ringing the doctors is just ridiculous, but figured reaching out to other c section mums and seeing what's normal might help me feel better.
I found after day 4 I felt amazing, I started reducing my meds, going out, I even went to London at the weekend to watch Peter Kay as I felt up to it. In the last couple of days I've noticed more pain and discomfort, not internal, but like the skin...I think it's from the bruising which seems ro have come out a lot more recently. I'm scared I've not taken it easy enough and have caused damage (health visitor told me off for hoovering🤦‍♀️)
My midwife also said I could have a bath after 2 weeks but I feel like someone should check my scar first? I'm so scared that going in the bath will cause problems.
I'm so paranoid about my scar and send daily photos to my sister who's a midwife, there's no signs of infection but there is a small section that looks a bit 'gapey' compared to the rest.

If anyone could just send me some reassurance it would be greatly appreciated as it's really starting to upset me

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Definitely take it easy, that’s a lot to do just 4days pp and hoovering using more ab muscles than you realise. I reduced my meds far too quickly and found myself in more pain so definitely keep on top of those. I personally didn’t bath until all my scabs had come off because like you I didn’t want to cause any more damage or infection. As for your scar just keep checking it, I was too scared to look at mine so got my partner to check it every night to make sure it all looked good. I did have one part that started bleeding again when the midwife took my dressing off as it ripped a scab off with it but that healed well, it just has a little bump on that side now where there’s a bit of extra scar tissue

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Sorry my post wasn't that clear...I'm now 15 days post partum, I definitely didn't start doing that much at 4 days, I went to London at 10 days post partum. Xxx

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fair enough haha. I’d still probably take it easy. I don’t think I started doing much until around 2 weeks and even then it was only short walks etc

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I bathed 7 days PP and not had any issues. Just make sure you don’t use bubble bath or harsh products that might irritate the skin around your scar. I’ve been getting a bath with nothing in there it was nice to just soak in a hot bath with no bubbles anyway xx

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Your body will tell you when you’re doing too much, but I feel like when it does it’s already too late. It sounds like you have you have been over doing it. You’ve had major surgery. Even if you feel up to it, please rest for the sake of your body now and in the future.

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My boyfriend got a new job last month. Working in a local bar he does usually 8 hours each shift. Usually finishes at 12am so goes back to his dads because me and our children are asleep in bed and it’s not ideal traveling up to my house so late.
When he is here, he will go to sleep between 2-4 am.
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Yesterday annoyed me a little, he was at work till 5. Came up to see me and the girls, took the remote put what he wanted on the tv and fell asleep and went to bed. Not once did he pick up or acknowledge our youngest. He was downstairs for a whole hour then went to bed. there’s been a couple times my kids dad hasn’t seen them for a whole week because he’s working late shifts and just goes back to his dads and can’t seem to appreciate or understand how tough it can be for me on my own but I STILL get on with it.

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