Childminders

How soon are you going to look for a childminder? I’ve reached out to a few and some have said I’m way too early checking whereas others have no spaces until the end of next year!

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I’m looking now and they either don’t get back to me or they have no availability 🤦‍♀️ have you got the childcare app? If you make a profile, childminders can reach out to you as well as you can reach out to them.

Not for childminder but I booked my baby into her nursery when I was 6 months pregnant as when we were looking for our son at 3 months old there was very limited availability! I'd get booked in ASAP especially with the recent changes to free childcare

Our baby is only 9 weeks and we’ve started looking for childcare commencing Jan 2025 when I go back to work, I’ve already been told by multiple nurseries and childminders that they won’t have spaces available then 😭 what chance have you got!

I started making enquiries the other day, for my 6 week old for 9 months time, to be told majority of nurseries already have a waiting list up until July 2025! I might as well sort out her school now, if the wait is that long 😂

Oh god 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ I was hoping you’d all say that I’m being really premature as I’m looking to go back in March but seems I need to get on it properly! It’s insane how far in advance we have to do this stuff!! One of my friends also said to start reaching out to preschools 🤯 I didn’t know about the childminders app, what’s it called please and I’ll download!

it’s called childcare. It’s a picture of a badly drawn person 😅 make a profile on there and childminders can reach out to you and you can look through profiles.

amazing, thank you!!

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When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

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My husband just divorced me yesterday.

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I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
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Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

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Hello,
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Especially bedroom considering dirty laundry lives in there too. I do laundry once a week because I don’t use enough to do more frequent.
But I just want my room smelling nice and cosy.

The more natural the method the better ladies 😣
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